soleharmony1123 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 (edited) I'm a little distraught this morning because I posted or attempted to post a thread and it completely dispersed into thin air after I carefully submitted it. I kept the title because it still applies. To sum up what I had posted...up until about 20 minutes ago, I had not heard from my ex in four days...Sunday was the last time he'd called and he had left a message where he was rattled because I wasn't returning his calls. This morning I was feeling a bit "weak" and questioning whether my complete NC was really working in my case and whether or not I may be missing some of my ex's signs that he regrets his decision to break up in the first place. I believe he regrets his decision, but because he knows I can hold a grudge, he's somewhat hesitant in how to approach the issue. I'm doubting NC - but I didn't say I'm stupid. I KNOW that it's NOT in my best interests to call him and I'm not going to. I've just been feeling again - and that's made me uncomfortable...especially since he just left a voicemail message saying he hasn't talked to me in DAYS now and he thinks I'm being unfair. LS, help me regain ground here...I'M BEING UNFAIR...but he turned his back on a relationship with minor flaws AND he's the one who made promises he hasn't kept:mad:...but I'M BEING UNFAIR? He chose to demote me from his girlriend to his "friend.":confused: I told him I couldn't be his friend and he pleaded with me to not turn my back on him because he needed me since I'm the only one he can talk to and who has been there for him. I know I said this a few days ago...but "Sole, The Crutch" is not the distinction I'm expecting to hold in a man's life. So, he's still operating in selfish-mode, it seems to me. What's the big deal with him? I have a very close female best friend that I don't talk to except once or twice a year. She's married and has children and I have a family. Yet when we talk to each other those 2 times out of the year, we may chat for 2-3 hours, bringing each other up to speed on life's events. He's getting bent out of shape over 10 measly days? Really!...what does this man want -- to have his cake and eat it too...I know...but that can really lead to very high levels of "cholesterol." LS, what's your take? Edited March 18, 2010 by soleharmony1123
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