doomage Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Here is where this started http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t224178/ So ya this girl and I were supposed to hang out this week because it is our springbreak, i only see her at my college and after asking her about five times already she still hasn't given me her number, instead she offered me her myspace and we were messaging back and forth then one day she ruined teh flow and stopped messaging back. so i would remind her to read my messages and get back to me and she said she would and it takes her like two weeks to get back to me so forget that but anyway this weekend i messaged her saying "hey roxy, let's get together this week, it'' be fun, just let me know. and she read it a day later and replied a day later saying "boyyyyy is it so hard for you to wait till i hit u up? i dont wanna be a bitch or a stuck up. but thats a reason why i dislike talking to boys. YOU GUYS BUG! why do u guys do that? anyways umm i dont think we will end up hanging out. i feel bad writing this to you, bbut its the honest truth what i feel. and i thought u were a cool guy to talk to and become my friend but then u started to insist so no. Bye mr. and ugghhh i feel evil writing this to you. maybe i should not send it but .." that's what i woke up to on tuesday morning so i was quite confused i wrote back to her but she just read it but what really pisses me off is that her and a friend of hers are commenting eachother on myspace talking crap about all guys saying "were clingy and back in high school guys didn't want relationships and now they do, and were desperate" and basically just hating. if they didn't play so many games guys wouldn't sweat them that hard, because i really campaigned with this girl and she just acts dumb and i know i had part in it im not saying its all her fault but i can do without the bullcrap games. but it's as if she's too good for me or something. whatever though im a good dude if she can't see that it's her fault. i know she's been hurt or something in the past but well she just missed out on a good guy. anyway im dating a new girl now so it doesnt matter but it kinda bruised my ego on tuesday now i don't mind.
mrkleen Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Disappear bro. Just get out of it now. She is obviously a immature kid that is playing you. Save yourself a lot of aggravation later...but walking now.
DustySaltus Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Yeah, I think it's better to move on at this point. I read your previous post and it's probably better to leave it alone than have her press charges. Not trying to be a jerk, but i'm calling it like I see it.
Author doomage Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 thanks guys, it's not even that serious though, it's just pretty frustrating when you know you are a stand up guy and a girl that obviously has been hurt or played by guys or something "the vibe im getting from her" can't see that and instead shrugs you off, for no reason really. on the one hand she made it seem like "we were talking now" which were teh exact words from her, and then the next week she was giving me the cold shoulder i was just tryna get to know her but, well no more i have to stop being so nice to girls who aren't nice to me so i'm not gonna pay attention to her anymore, and not take her seriously.
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Disappear bro. Just get out of it now. She is obviously a immature kid that is playing you. Yes Yeah, I think it's better to move on at this point. I read your previous post and it's probably better to leave it alone than have her press charges. Not trying to be a jerk, but i'm calling it like I see it. It isn't far away.. she has just laid down the real goaway.. she told you in her text that it isn't gonna happen Re-Read some of your old thread.. man.. you are not seeing the forest thru the trees.. She doesn't seem to like you and has made it pretty clear.. I'm sorry to say- but she doesn't want anything to do with you. :-( Nope, she isnt into you, but she likes toying with you. If a girl tells you that she's a lesbian, that means that she's not interested in anything sexual with you, even if she isn't a lesbian. I would forget about this girl. Find some other lady to bring to spring break; one that appreciates your attention. Are you being intentionally dense? Shes not teasing you or playing hard to get...SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU. She isnt giving you any clues that she likes you, and you are looking like a stalker to her now. Leave her alone. You ruined it with her, and you wont be able to make it work now, youve weirded her out.
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 thanks guys, it's not even that serious though, it's just pretty frustrating when you know you are a stand up guy and a girl that obviously has been hurt or played by guys or something "the vibe im getting from her" can't see that and instead shrugs you off, for no reason really. on the one hand she made it seem like "we were talking now" which were teh exact words from her, and then the next week she was giving me the cold shoulder i was just tryna get to know her but, well no more i have to stop being so nice to girls who aren't nice to me so i'm not gonna pay attention to her anymore, and not take her seriously. It is isn't that you are being too nice to her, the problem is that you are talking to her at all.. You need to drop her from your mind and don;t speak with her anymore.. She is asking that you leave her alone...
DustySaltus Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Doomage, for future reference when you ask a girl for her number and she shrugs you off or gives you her myspace initially it's probably a sign that she's not into you. A girl that is into you wouldn't make you work that hard.
boogieboy Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Doomage, for future reference, when a woman doesnt reply to your text within a day the first time, she isnt into you. Shes not playing a game, she just doesnt want to talk to you.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 a.) use punctuation. No wonder she doesn't want to write you back, you're impossible to read. b.) She isn't kicking you to the curb, she wasn't interested in the first place. "I'm a lesbian and I have a girlfriend" means that she is in a relationship with someone else and not on the market.
LovelyDaze Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 That was just amazing to read. You guys sound extremely young...the both of you. I can almost place a bet that if you don't call her back ever again, she will come popping up around the corner being all cute and flirty.. seeing if you will take the bait and be a puppet. Leave her at the "Bye Mr." juvenile-style text. Continue wading in the dating pool with girls who will actually give you the time of day and not act like a 12 year old. Just to blunt....if you so much as call, text or e-mail her about anything...you'd be officially...a fool.
Author doomage Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 I really appreciate the advice you all gave me. Ya the only thing i did was when i read her message on myspace i responded to it, but since then I haven't lifted a finger. I'm 21 and she's 19, so ya she's a bit young, i am too, but it's true that if a girl really did like you she wouldn't make it that hard for me to hang with her. I thought she was just making me work hard to see if i was worth it, i should have qualitfied her though.
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I thought she was just making me work hard to see if i was worth it, The only way to know the difference is experience.. You'll get it... That is what dating is.. learning what you want out of a relationship and what you don't want out of one, you also learn many other things.. like cues... She gave you a cue and it was left up to you to decide what that cue meant.. You just guessed wrong and honestly if she had been a bit more mature then deciding on what that cue meant would have been easier.. The younger girls are learning about dating just as you are and they haven't figured out yet that men hang on their words sometimes and they should be a bit more direct.. Live and Learn
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