Should you count your days of NC when you had closure?

[tylerdurden]

Should you count your days of NC when you had you closure? or should you just not bother anymore?

Thanks

[DustySaltus]

Should you count your days of NC when you had you closure? or should you just not bother anymore?

Thanks

 

You should try and not to count them although sometimes it's very hard. I know exactly one year ago yesterday that I asked my ex to marry me, so that was a hard date to try and forget.

 

If you're going to think of it, think of it as a badge of courage. One day at a time, focus on yourself. You can be a lot stronger than you think when you make a commitment to something and stick with it.

 

I know you're hurting but stay strong.

[rand0m]

I remember counting when it all first started, but as our lives are so intertwined, it seemed like I couldn't get past a few days without getting some sort of message from her (text, fb, phone call). As time passed, I gave up on counting. I'm aware of the most recent events (saw her 2 days ago for the first time in.. I'd say over a month), and she texted me yesterday, but before that, I don't remember when we had any contact. I'd guess: a week? a week and a half?

 

Count them if it makes you feel better. It can be empowering to look at the date and say "hey, it's already been a week, or 2 weeks, or a month." I dunno, maybe my situation is different because we seem to have contact once in a while on some level. If we broke off completely clean, then I'd probably remember the last day we talked.

 

Good luck!

[Ilovecake]

Personally I don't understand counting days of NC. It's not like a countdown to something. If you are still in the mode of counting the days then you are obviously still very hung up on the person and not ready to break NC.