Kris30 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Hi all. I've recently started dating again after a loooong time. I've been on a couple dates with a nice guy (1 double date & 1 just us). I can tell he really likes me & has already asked about getting together again next week. The thing is I'm just not sure if he's my type. A couple friends of mine have told me to give him a chance, but I don't want to lead him on. He is nice looking & has admirable qualities. Just not sure if he's my type. On our last date (#2) he walked me to my car & went to hug me & I gave him a little side hug/pat. I wonder if he wanted to kiss me? Also, I am a 28 yo female and my libido is high lately. Part of me wants to proceed just because of that. *blush* He is 40 & I know he's looking for companionship. I do want to marry, but I just don't know at this point if this is the guy for me. Advice on how to proceed?
Bejita463 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Do you like him, and enjoy his company? If so, go with it. You'll know for sure what you want soon enough. If not, you already have your answer, no?
DustySaltus Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Hi all. I've recently started dating again after a loooong time. I've been on a couple dates with a nice guy (1 double date & 1 just us). I can tell he really likes me & has already asked about getting together again next week. The thing is I'm just not sure if he's my type. A couple friends of mine have told me to give him a chance, but I don't want to lead him on. He is nice looking & has admirable qualities. Just not sure if he's my type. On our last date (#2) he walked me to my car & went to hug me & I gave him a little side hug/pat. I wonder if he wanted to kiss me? Also, I am a 28 yo female and my libido is high lately. Part of me wants to proceed just because of that. *blush* He is 40 & I know he's looking for companionship. I do want to marry, but I just don't know at this point if this is the guy for me. Advice on how to proceed? Welcome to LS. Well, if you are having second thoughts about him I would not sleep with him. If he really likes you he will interpret it differently and your going to wind up hurting him. You either need to give him a real shot or move on. It's understandable to not know if he's the guy for you because of the short amount of time you've known each other. But people do have a way of surprsing us and growing on us from time to time. Do you feel like going out with him again at this point?
Author Kris30 Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 I think I would like to go out with him again, yes. I mean I'm willing to give it a try. And I don't plan on sleeping with him until I do really like him. But what about if he tries to kiss me? Should I not let him until I know if I really like him?
A O Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Advice on how to proceed? Move on. If he's not rocking your world this early in the piece, he never will do. .
boogieboy Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I think I would like to go out with him again, yes. I mean I'm willing to give it a try. And I don't plan on sleeping with him until I do really like him. But what about if he tries to kiss me? Should I not let him until I know if I really like him? If you already know that youre not ready to kiss him right now, then do him a favor and dont go out with him again. Youre not sure and you really shouldnt. You know theres something in particular about him that you dont like, if you cant get past that then dont go out with him again.
Author Kris30 Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 If you already know that youre not ready to kiss him right now, then do him a favor and dont go out with him again. Youre not sure and you really shouldnt. You know theres something in particular about him that you dont like, if you cant get past that then dont go out with him again. There's not anything I DON'T like about him... I'm just not sure I like him enough to have a relationship with him. Also, I'm not necessarily opposed to him kissing me, but if I kiss him won't he think I really like him? I'm just not sure right now. But a friend just told me she didn't really like her husband until after about 10 dates. I'm supposed to call or text him about getting together next week... Also, by the 3rd date he might want to kiss me right? Do I let him? Wait & see? I'm ok with a little kiss, but don't want to give him the wrong idea
mella Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 Don't sleep with him. If he's into you, that may cause a whole other mess, since you don't feel the same.
LovelyDaze Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 There's not anything I DON'T like about him... I'm just not sure I like him enough to have a relationship with him. Also, I'm not necessarily opposed to him kissing me, but if I kiss him won't he think I really like him? I'm just not sure right now. But a friend just told me she didn't really like her husband until after about 10 dates. I'm supposed to call or text him about getting together next week... Also, by the 3rd date he might want to kiss me right? Do I let him? Wait & see? I'm ok with a little kiss, but don't want to give him the wrong idea If you go out on what will be your 3rd date with him, just have a good time and enjoy his company and of course do not sleep with him. He might claim you guys as an exclusive couple after that. I'd say get to know him so more and have him get to know you and your interests. If by the end of the night you are not feeling what he's about even less, be nice in turning him down for a 4th. Just state that although you have enjoyed his company you see only a friendship in the future with him. If that feels uncomfortable, just let him know that you have a busy week with other friends and stuff. Make it true and spend time with friends and family instead of dating that week. Ease into letting him know that you didn't feel a love connection at let it be.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 I think you are RIGHT where you are supposed to be at this point. Neither your mom, your sister, nor your best friend from back in high school would have these answers for you (even IF you could bring yourself to present the scenario to them as you have here). I think you should err on the side of going out with him again if for no other reason than to have the additional experience of you going through the dating motions in your trek back into the dating world.
seibert253 Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 You've only been on two dates. How do expect to know if he's right, or if your "into" him. You barely know him FGS. The more you're with him, the more you'll know about him. I really wasn't "into" my W the first couple of times we went out. 18 years later and we're still together. Give it some time, see what lies ahead. I imagine after 3 or 4 more dates, you'll have a better understanding of where you're headed.
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