Ingenue Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I don't know what to do. I've been going out with my bf for 15 months. We both love each other. We mesh on everything except for one possible sticking point, which has brought me here. I'm not 100% sure I want kids. I don't want them now, but maybe I might want them in the future. I just want that window open as an option. He doesn't think he wants kids, but he's conflicted about it (really conflicted). He's great with kids, can picture himself playing with a miniature me, but has enough doubts in his mind that maybe fatherhood isn't the right thing for him. The thing is that I don't know what to do. It would be very easy if I was 100% sure I wanted kids. It would be a no brainer. But the fact is, is that I don't know 100%. Do we break up because we think we're going on different paths? I haven't meshed with any guy like this before. Everything with him is easy. There are no ideological differences (save this one), but we have similar viewpoints, similar desires, similar perspectives on life. And while he's not the male version of me, he's pretty close. I would appreciate any advice. I really don't know what to do. We're both in our 30s (me early, him later) and I'm at a loss right now. Neither of us want to break up. We're both torn up about this
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