sandcast123 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I knew we were on the ropes but didn't know it would end tonight. I have been dating someone for about 14 months and we broke up on the phone tonight. He has shown signs of things I found incompatible such as he was a hoarder, he couldn't tell me he loved me, he didn't introduce me to his family, he wouldn't visit lately because of the "uncertainty" that my 23 yr old son might come home and he wanted to sleep over with me - my son's appearance would mess up his plans, etc., etc.,etc. He said he couldn't get to know me well enough unless I could spend unlimited time with him - he is retired and I work. So, it was a mutual break up on the phone since I would not tell my son he couldn't come home because my boyfriend wanted to stay over. But even though I knew this wouldn't work, we did have so much that was going well. I am over 50 so am feeling like my chances are so few. I have been divorced for 20 years. I didn't want to end up alone but it seems like that is where I am heading. So, tonight I feel hopeless. Is there hope for us over 50 folks? I guess I just need to know that someone is listening.
Pfiend101 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I tried to convince my ex I was a better man then the "bad boy" shes going out with now. It doesnt matter what I think. To her and your ex they are with the right person. Unfortunately some people just dont get it until its too late.
LovelyDaze Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I knew we were on the ropes but didn't know it would end tonight. I have been dating someone for about 14 months and we broke up on the phone tonight. He has shown signs of things I found incompatible such as he was a hoarder, he couldn't tell me he loved me, he didn't introduce me to his family, he wouldn't visit lately because of the "uncertainty" that my 23 yr old son might come home and he wanted to sleep over with me - my son's appearance would mess up his plans, etc., etc.,etc. He said he couldn't get to know me well enough unless I could spend unlimited time with him - he is retired and I work. So, it was a mutual break up on the phone since I would not tell my son he couldn't come home because my boyfriend wanted to stay over. But even though I knew this wouldn't work, we did have so much that was going well. I am over 50 so am feeling like my chances are so few. I have been divorced for 20 years. I didn't want to end up alone but it seems like that is where I am heading. So, tonight I feel hopeless. Is there hope for us over 50 folks? I guess I just need to know that someone is listening. My mom is almost 60 and has been happily married....since she was 54! My mom & dad divorced many years ago and she went through breakup after breakup after breakup! She tried to hide her pain but my siblings and I knew she was sad sometimes. Some were long term relationships or dates that went completely wrong. I remember my mom telling a friend that she KNOWS she will never find love again. For awhile, it did seem to go that way. She went thru many more failed romances after that very comment. THEN, she was advised to just take a break from dating. She volunteered, went back to college, and also got promoted at work & went into that full swing. One day, she was going to lunch in the hospital cafeteria and met a nice man who wanted to know where the gift shop was. After visiting his friend he came LOOKING for my mom to say how nice and pretty he thought she was! Phone numbers were exchanged, they dated and now 6 years later...they are married and still happy! Think of it, she was about 52 when they met...shows that there is hope and light if you just take a step back to live your life to the fullest ON YOUR OWN. Even though I am in my early 30s, I am doing the same thing...taking a break and enjoying single life. You will be fine. And yes there is hope!
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