Canadaleaf Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Ok here the story, dated for a month, everything went great, then she wanted a break to "find her happy". I agreed and we went on our ways. Had a little argument because I assumed she didn't want me to talk to her which wasn't the case. Break is a month old and im getting annoyed because well is it worth it type thing. Then all of a sudden she stops talking to me for 3 weeks. During this time I try to see whats going on and she says her and her best friend are fighting(which they were), but the next day there fine and yet shes still not talking to me,but everyone else(reason there fighting is actually important. Her best friend is playing with two guys feelings right now. She can't decide which one she wants to be with and well, the one is oblivios this is going on(my friend) and the other one knows it is, but still wants to be with her after he did something to her(idk what he did that upset her). I fianlly say im sick of waiting and not knowing whats going on, is it worth me waiting around still. She says no because im leaving to go work in April, yet I will only be 40mins away.Still wants to be friends which I agree to(wish I didn't) tell her not to talk to me till I get over her. Ok whatever its over. First few days suck but I got over her fast because I guess I felt like it was going nowhere anyways during the break. Everything is great, I learned some stuff about myself and its a week tomorrow since the breakup and well Im over her already. Then out of nowhere I get a text from a not-so-close friend asking what's up and stuff. I know instantly there going to ask why we broke up. I tell them and then I get a huge shock. Word is shes telling people I cheated on her! Which I would never do! I tell the person this and then asked who told her. She said she got her bf to ask her why we broke up. I guess what was said was I cheated on her, or she cheated on me or something(exact words from text) and there was alchol involved when this was asked. One problem though is the person telling me this is not reliable at all. She is a drama queen. However she does not personally know my ex, so that raises questions. Also who else would start the rumour besides my ex. I have only heard it from this one person so my question is what should I do. 1)Confront my ex and ask her if she said it 2)Wait and see approach and see if it comes up anymore P.S shes been cheated on in the past. To be honest I just want to know, if she started this rumour I would probraly tell her off as I did not treat her wrong at all. If she cheated on me well, I don't what I would do then either.
GrayClouds Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Best thing is to be a duck and let all that just roll off your back. Give up the friend thing for now I suggest going complete NC and focus on yourself. Right now it sounds like it is getting a bit ugly, do yourself a favor and stay above it.
brokenH Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 ive been the doormat for my ex as the "friend", its not worth being the friend anymore when theyre with someone else. seeing as there is a drama queen involved that will make matters worse. time to start a NC. you will end up looking like the bad guy eventually if you keep going with this friendship.
Author Canadaleaf Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Iv been doing NC lol, I havent seen or heard from her since the breakup. However Im sure I will see her tonight at this toga party im going to. I just kinda want to know if she is saying that I cheated on her or worse cheated on me, should be a strange night, def not going to say a word to her though, unless people come up to me and go hey did you cheat on your ex, then ill def need to have a word with her
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