Author jack5100nv Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 ok everyone, I appreciate everyone's input. I will ask her out for saturday is she calls by 10:30. However, do you think from my original post that I am being too available?
CLC2008 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Di you watch How I met Your Mother, that episode when Robin goes out on a date and was going to tell the guy she does not want to see him when he called. but he did not call for a week and she wanted him to call and was totally upset about it and wanted to talk to him. Well that does happen in real life. Of course it does. But you're missing the point....You'll work it out I hope
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 God I hate women who are flakes, why cant they just be striaght up with a dude. If you feeling him, dont play games, let him know. If you cant make it because you gonna do something else, let him know, dont toy with his feelings, that' makes you look like an A-hole!!
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Again I strongly suggest you disregard the poor advice from the women here. "Don't play games," "just be yourself," is NEVER good advice. Women are extremely manipulative and you should be too. You've already got a glimpse of the truth, and you're learning to act on it. You've got a long way to go but go with what you've learned. In the beginning, before you're dating several girls, you've got to pretend you are. Do this by making yourself less available, even if it means sitting alone in your closet.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Again I strongly suggest you disregard the poor advice from the women here. "Don't play games," "just be yourself," is NEVER good advice. Women are extremely manipulative and you should be too. You've already got a glimpse of the truth, and you're learning to act on it. You've got a long way to go but go with what you've learned. In the beginning, before you're dating several girls, you've got to pretend you are. Do this by making yourself less available, even if it means sitting alone in your closet. Ive also heard just be yourself, but women like being lied to, the visual lie, the financial lie, the fidelity lie. And EVEN WHEN they know a man is no good for them, they will justify a reason to be with that said man. And if that man is a jerk and everyone knows he's a jerk, women will gravitate towards said jerk because he's charismatic or influential, or some dumb crap. Nice guys will always finish last in this world. Women dont date nice guys, they sleep with the jerks and marry the nice guys in the long run. that's what life is... lol.
kassy Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I would consider it strange that you have a life but yet can be available at any time on any day to see her. In my world, if I have a training session, or dinner with friends or my chinese class or anything, on then that point in time is unavailable... so for example I might have training or something until 10pm but will often catch up with mates for a quick bite to eat or a drink after that. I would be the same for a guy, unless there was no point in the next 10 days that I could meet up without rescheduling something, then I would find 3 options of times which I could possibly reschedule if any of them suited him. To me, I don't drop my plans for someone except when it's really important. A best friends birthday or something, and I don't classify some guy I hardly know as being anywhere vaguely near that status of priority. And I would like to think that a guy would also think along the same lines. So to me if a guy said, I have a really full life... but yet I could see him any time any day I wanted, I would think - full life, yeah right. (Also I expect anyone I am dating to have a full time job, to me that is a given not an indicator of a busy life - life is what happens when you aren't at work!) I have a life and a full time job. It is that I make time to see her. It is not that hard to make time for someone. So if someone says they do not have time and not free for a week, I don't believe it and take it as they are playing games, hard to get, hence trying to be not available. So, in order to show that I have better things to do then make time for her, I have to play not to be available, it sucks, I do not want to do it but if i don't she ain't gonna like me since i will be "too easy'. anyway. if she calls before 10:30, I will ask her out for saturday.
Author jack5100nv Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Ive also heard just be yourself, but women like being lied to, the visual lie, the financial lie, the fidelity lie. And EVEN WHEN they know a man is no good for them, they will justify a reason to be with that said man. And if that man is a jerk and everyone knows he's a jerk, women will gravitate towards said jerk because he's charismatic or influential, or some dumb crap. Nice guys will always finish last in this world. Women dont date nice guys, they sleep with the jerks and marry the nice guys in the long run. that's what life is... lol. well said, and they get hurt and cry but they keep dating the jerks and keep the nice guy putting aside. I talk to one of my female friend. She told me she has been hurt many times by guys. I asked her what kind of guys she has been going out with or what she looks for. she said, I like confidence, assertive and bold. I said those are the guys that know how to get into your pants. Try dating a guy who is nice, looks not so confident, and is nervous about talking to you at first. he will treat you right. she said, "But I am not attracted to that. I don't like guys like that". She also said, if a guy calls right after the first date, it over from her end, lol. No wonder why she keeps getting hurt, she wants to get hurt, lol.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 That's exactly what im talking about, so you clearly see my point!
mrkleen Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 well said, and they get hurt and cry but they keep dating the jerks and keep the nice guy putting aside. I talk to one of my female friend. She told me she has been hurt many times by guys. I asked her what kind of guys she has been going out with or what she looks for. she said, I like confidence, assertive and bold. I said those are the guys that know how to get into your pants. Try dating a guy who is nice, looks not so confident, and is nervous about talking to you at first. he will treat you right. she said, "But I am not attracted to that. I don't like guys like that". She also said, if a guy calls right after the first date, it over from her end, lol. No wonder why she keeps getting hurt, she wants to get hurt, lol. Completely agree. This is such self destructive behavior. There are plenty of successful, assertive, confident guys that are also sweet....and when they like you, they make more of their time available to you. This is what SHOULD happen when you like someone. You dont drop you entire life, but why would you not reschedule something now and again to be with this great person that excites you. People who try and fit new relationships into these small holes in their schedule are clearly NOT ready for a real relationship. I am not telling you to stop going to class, stop working out, start calling in sick to work to spend time with me. But if your life is so full that you dont even have time to fit in a great person...maybe you dont deserve one.
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