Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I just came back from a run... The weather today was awesome (mid 50's) so there was a lot of other people out there including my favourite - girls who are runners... But, let's cut to the chase... So, I'm 29, gonna be 30 this May. I'm finishing up my degree and spending 5 years in grad school to get three letters after your name seems like putting your life on hold for essentially nothing (well not really but...). Anyways, I've put my dating life pretty much on hold, modulo this one 3.5 months fling that ended 1.5 months ago. Now that I'm moving to LA I wonder if I'll seem to old for girls who are, say 25-26... I know it seems like 5 years is nothing but still... I'm fairly athletic (with all this running, swimming and biking that I do), moderately intelligent, can keep up a conversation, not really socially awkward etc. so? What do you guys think?
johan Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 If you have any kind of aptitude for shuffleboard or bingo, you should have no shortage of dates.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 As Schopenhauer said, the high point of a man's sexual desirability to women is age 35. You have plenty of time and the poon will increase from your current age until you are 45 or so, after which is will start to decline unless you are quite rich.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 If you have any kind of aptitude for shuffleboard or bingo, you should have no shortage of dates. Thanks That's what I freakin' needed now... ugh
desertmoon Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 You are perfect....you are NOT going to be in grad school forever, are you?
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 You are perfect....you are NOT going to be in grad school forever, are you? Nope! Just 1.5 months more...
adamt Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 (edited) I'm 39 soon and been dating women aged 31 to 37. Got myself in shape so i look good for my age even though I am getting a llittle bit of grey hair. just keep it short. i think looking after yourself gets a lot of respect from women. far too many men let themselves go in their 30s. Too old to go in bars to find women, so you have to be more imaginative and network. joins groups for sports hobbies that interest you.find new friends and mix in new circles that involve lots of females. if you are 30 then 25-26 year olds should not be an issue. i've been out with someone who was 24/25 when i was 33. all depends on how mature they are and what their interests are. Edited March 18, 2010 by adamt
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Too old to go in bars to find women, so you have to be more imaginative and network. joins groups for sports hobbies that interest you.find new friends and mix in new circles that involve lots of females. I've never been much into the bar scene... not my type and I generally don't think it's a good place to meet someone for something serious. Since my type of girl is sporty and outdoorsy I'm gonna probably stick to racing events, sport meetups and pick-up leagues. If you are 30 then 25-26 year olds should be an issue. Um... should or should not be an issue? I mean 25/26 is still good, right?
twhisperer Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I've never been much into the bar scene... not my type and I generally don't think it's a good place to meet someone for something serious. Since my type of girl is sporty and outdoorsy I'm gonna probably stick to racing events, sport meetups and pick-up leagues. Um... should or should not be an issue? I mean 25/26 is still good, right? What is a pick-up league?
adamt Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Um... should or should not be an issue? I mean 25/26 is still good, right? Sorry I edited as you were responding. it was a typo by me. 5 year younger when you are 30 is fine. probably different if you were 25. when you are 35 you will go down to 28 then when you are 40 you will go down to 30. its all about how mature they are. women tend to be more mature than men at the same age anyway. my sister was 23 and dated someone 34 for 3 years. just stay in good shape
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 What is a pick-up league? Um... like pick-up volleyball or pick-up frisbee etc. that's what I meant... not a league 'per se'. I meant pickup sports in general... Yeah... I realized now - pickup league just beats the purpose: it's either a league or a pickup game...
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Sorry I edited as you were responding. it was a typo by me. 5 year younger when you are 30 is fine. probably different if you were 25. when you are 35 you will go down to 28 then when you are 40 you will go down to 30. its all about how mature they are. women tend to be more mature than men at the same age anyway. my sister was 23 and dated someone 34 for 3 years. just stay in good shape Thanks! That's what I'm planning on anyways - stay in shape just for myself.
twhisperer Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Um... like pick-up volleyball or pick-up frisbee etc. that's what I meant... not a league 'per se'. I meant pickup sports in general... Yeah... I realized now - pickup league just beats the purpose: it's either a league or a pickup game... Interesting.
PhillyDude Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 At 34, i go down 10 years now at 44 I probably will probably go do 10-15 years
Crazy Magnet Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I think you'll be fine to go for 25 and 26 yo girls. My BF now is 5 years older than me (30/35) and the last LTR I had started when I was 28 and he was 35. You can probably go younger than 25 if the girl is on the mature side for her age.
Mr White Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm 33 and already feel dating is overrated . I really don't have energy or patience for it. For the record, I also finished my PhD at 29 ; Hopefully everything will work out with my current gf and we get married. If not, I'm giving up and will focus on my career (and hookers). So, you're in very good shape right now, but if I were you I'd take steps to get settled by 35-37. Although men generally age better, it's all downhill from there. Or at least the demographics of the dating pool will change dramatically after that
Crazy Magnet Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm 33 and already feel dating is overrated . I really don't have energy or patience for it. For the record, I also finished my PhD at 29 ; Hopefully everything will work out with my current gf and we get married. If not, I'm giving up and will focus on my career (and hookers). So, you're in very good shape right now, but if I were you I'd take steps to get settled by 35-37. Although men generally age better, it's all downhill from there. Or at least the demographics of the dating pool will change dramatically after that I can't say that I would start a relationship with someone over 37 at this point. I keep think, what an old Dad that guy will make. I really want kids. But if marriage and kids don't work out I can always marry my research! lol And right now I'm hating all of you who are done with the Permanent Head Damage degree. The 25 pages of stats homework I just turned in fried my brain. I had horrible dreams about beta weights, transformations, and dichotomous variables and all night. Regressions will never end!!! Agooooony!!!
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm 33 and already feel dating is overrated It also depends on what you're looking for. I LOVE dating. If you do too, then don't settle down till your mid-40s, or if you can pull a Clooney, till your mid-50s. I once saw a dude in his mid-60s at a Hollywood party who had a 35 year old g/f. He was short, balding, grey hair, glasses, but was super, super hip. He smoked weed, had poetry readings, just a totally cool guy. If you're "over" the singles scene (how??) then marry when you're 30-35.
stillafool Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 As Schopenhauer said, the high point of a man's sexual desirability to women is age 35. You have plenty of time and the poon will increase from your current age until you are 45 or so, after which is will start to decline unless you are quite rich. It is? For me the highpoint is 27.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Yeah, I was kinda thinking today to myself that it'd be good to settle down around 33-35. I know, I can't plan these things etc. but it just has been so frustrating recently to see all the people around me who are the same age as me to be seriously involved with someone. The only ones that are single are either younger or also in grad school... and there are also the single girls who are my age but to them I'm still in school so I'm kind of not considered to be an adult etc. silly, isn't it?
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 It is? For me the highpoint is 27. Why? What changes at 28?
Crazy Magnet Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Yeah, I was kinda thinking today to myself that it'd be good to settle down around 33-35. I know, I can't plan these things etc. but it just has been so frustrating recently to see all the people around me who are the same age as me to be seriously involved with someone. The only ones that are single are either younger or also in grad school... and there are also the single girls who are my age but to them I'm still in school so I'm kind of not considered to be an adult etc. silly, isn't it? If that's what you really want then you need to try to make it happen. All this waiting for fate crap is just crap. Take your life into your own hands! lol I know my BF regrets getting into his last LTR. He met her at 31 and knew from the beginning that she never wanted to get married. He spent three years with her because they had a lot in common, but she broke up with him in the end b/c he wanted marriage and family and she didn't and she wasn't going to compromise. Now he regrets being 35 with no settling in sight and I know he worries that it won't happen for him. (slightly freaky for me b/c I worry that he's in find a wife mode.)
stillafool Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Why? What changes at 28? I don't know what changes. I was just thinking about the age where men are the most sexually attractive to me.
crosswordfiend Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 And right now I'm hating all of you who are done with the Permanent Head Damage degree. I like that one. Back when I was at Stanford we used to call it Piled Higher and Deeper. They even made a comic strip about it - I think you can still find it online.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I think late 20s are a good age for men. After 30 their sperm declines in quality! OP, 25/26 isn't bad at all. Either are girls your own age. *shrug* But good luck. Overall, men have a harder time in the dating world then women do no matter their age. It's awesome being a woman.
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