twhisperer Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm not worried about it, but thanks for your concern just the same. If he (or anyone) handled that kind of life gift so shabby, it wouldn't be me mostly hurt as it would him for the loss of it. So sadly true. It's unfortunate when we hear a person equate love with a used car.
sagetalk Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm curious, do you think of everyone's needs before your own? To say I put other people's needs above my own would be an understatement. Knowing that my girl would be looking out for me instead of her own interest would put my mind at ease, because it's automatic that hers would be above my own in a committed relationship.
Lakeside_runner Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Sporty, carrying, open and generally down-to-earth and honest. No games, no drama. Appreciate what I'd do for her... Last girl I dated - I cooked a freakin' awesome 3 course gourmet dinner with creme broulle (homemade from scratch) for dessert... Let's put it that way: she said she'll remember the fact that I opened the door for here every time rather than those dinners... I guess I will never learn what is considered 'special' on this continent...
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm not worried about it That's wonderful. Life is good when two people approach a relationship with the same goals and motives.
Twenty-ten Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 To say I put other people's needs above my own would be an understatement. Knowing that my girl would be looking out for me instead of her own interest would put my mind at ease, because it's automatic that hers would be above my own in a committed relationship. Wow that's awesome!
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 It's unfortunate when we hear a person equate love with a used car. In all earnestness, why is that "unfortunate?" Please, think about it. And please don't say, "Well if you can't understand, then I can't explain it." I look forward to hearing a rational explanation of why equating the marriage market to a used-car market is "unfortunate."
twhisperer Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 In all earnestness, why is that "unfortunate?" Please, think about it. And please don't say, "Well if you can't understand, then I can't explain it." I look forward to hearing a rational explanation of why equating the marriage market to a used-car market is "unfortunate." I was referring to relationships in general. Love, life, friendship, the soul - that sort of thing.
Twenty-ten Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 In all earnestness, why is that "unfortunate?" Please, think about it. And please don't say, "Well if you can't understand, then I can't explain it." I look forward to hearing a rational explanation of why equating the marriage market to a used-car market is "unfortunate." Ok now you can include me in that comment because earlier I thought you meant the used car dealer as putting everyone first, ie. you gave a random example of putting other's needs first that wouldn't work. But you are actually making the comparison of a partner you supposedly love to that of a used car dealer? A used care dealer cannot be trusted, therefore you would never put their needs first. So if you think it is the same thing the problem is that you simply don't trust women enough to think they will have your back when you have theirs.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Oh, I trust a used car dealer to do what's best for himself. Just as I trust pretty much all people to do what's best for themselves. But to hope that someone will sacrifice her best interests for mine.... eh, yeah, I don't. Which is why I say that when both people are altruistic, it works; when both people are selfish, it works; but when one is altruistic and the other selfish, then there are problems.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Sporty, carrying, open and generally down-to-earth and honest. No games, no drama. Appreciate what I'd do for her... Last girl I dated - I cooked a freakin' awesome 3 course gourmet dinner with creme broulle (homemade from scratch) for dessert... Let's put it that way: she said she'll remember the fact that I opened the door for here every time rather than those dinners... I guess I will never learn what is considered 'special' on this continent... If a guy made me creme brulee from scratch, I'd drag him off to Vegas for a shot gut wedding. Opening my doors is pretty cool too. It's probably different for every girl.
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