Silver_star Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 What are their attributes? I know this will be different for many but is there something that makes a woman more date-able than another? What is the quality that makes you want to stay involved with a woman vs finding someone else for whatever reason?
Engadget Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Someone at least as smart as me, open, good sense of humor, good curiosity about things. Into music, movies, nature, travelling. Looks wise? This varies, but my "ideal" girl would have raven black hair, and have curves and not be really skinny.
Author Silver_star Posted March 17, 2010 Author Posted March 17, 2010 any woman with a pulse would do right now Why? Why settle?
Ross PK Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 The main thing would be someone who is my kind of person, who I can connect with. I obviously need to at least find them a bit physically attractive too.
Author Silver_star Posted March 17, 2010 Author Posted March 17, 2010 i'm in a dating slump Me too and I work and go to school in environments surrounded with women..i guess you would like to switch me..but I need more guys in my life. I find it hard to date unless its on the weekends with someone who ive met on the weekend, which i find is kind of a scramble...i dont want to settle. Ive been there done that.
Ross PK Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Okay my last post was a bit vague and obvious. The sort of person would be someone who is a homebody, I just can't see myself being compatible with someone who get's up at the crack of dawn and always has to be out doing something, or even someone who likes to go for nights out a lot. It'd be cool if she liked video games so we could play them together, and for her to like a lot of the same TV shows so we could watch them together. I wouldn't want her to be too negative all the time either, as that would just bring me down. I always find the cheerful positive types more attractive. Oh, and being a prude or a control freak, is a definate no no.
USMCHokie Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 any woman with a pulse would do right now +1........
Nukulus Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Hmmm well lets see. Smart, open minded, funny... Someone who I can develop a good dialogue with. Attractive would be nice, not expecting a supermodel or whatever, but a girl who takes care of herself is very attractive. And here's the biggie... would it be so much to ask to find a girl that doesn't play mind games. I hate having to act like I don't care or am not interested just to keep her interested. Or even act like an ass to them. Isn't it enough that a nice guy is genuinely interested. Blah.
alphamale Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 And here's the biggie... would it be so much to ask to find a girl that doesn't play mind games. haha good luck with that nukulus
MrNate Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 A woman who takes life in stride like I do. She doesn't have to be the prettiest woman on the block. If she can make me laugh and exhibit basic intelligence, I'm sold.
bayouboi Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Off the top of my head and in no particular order: -is madly/obsessively in love with me and only me -can cook or at least likes to try -likes morning sex -puts a priority on fitness -is able to make herself happy with or without us going out to do something -comfortable with not talking -brave enough to bring up issues she has instead of just assuming I know what they are -forgiving -spiritual -exhibits responsible/mature characteristics -can be motherly for my future children
sagetalk Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Very feminine, kind to others (not just me), thinks of others needs above her own, tries to see the positive in her own self and most situations. I have found that many girls who dwell on how ugly/dumb/worthless they are they are attracted to guys that are the opposite of me (mostly jerks). It saves me alot of grief from the beginning.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 One word: easy EDIT: Ok, easy, and not horribly unattractive.
Twenty-ten Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 thinks of others needs above her own I'm curious, do you think of everyone's needs before your own?
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 I'm curious, do you think of everyone's needs before your own? What would be the point of that? He wants her to put his needs above her own. If he also put her needs above his own then there would some weird existential paradoxical explosion.. like "crossing the streams" in Ghostbusters. Might blow up the world.
sally4sara Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 What would be the point of that? He wants her to put his needs above her own. If he also put her needs above his own then there would some weird existential paradoxical explosion.. like "crossing the streams" in Ghostbusters. Might blow up the world. No, Two people, putting the needs of each other above their own is a partnership, and an ideal one. They both get their wants/needs, but as a tribute out of love from each other. That is an honorable and enviable life. Like two retainers watching each others back.
Twenty-ten Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Sally and Tnersertengertn (whoa your name is hard to spell) yeah you both make good points. But I would lean more towards what Sally said, if you are going to require your partner always puts everyone's needs first then you should also provide the same. And that would be enviable indeed.
Woggle Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Has to be smart Not a man hater Not addicted to drama Open minded and fun
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Well whatever floats your boat, I'm not a "partnering" type of person anyway. When you go into a used car dealer do you put his needs above your own and hope hope hope that he does the same for you? I certainly don't. I try to get the best deal I can and expect him to do the same. If he wants to give away the car for free, I'll take it. And to those who say that the dating/marriage market ain't the same as a used car dealership, take a good look in the mirror.
sally4sara Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Well whatever floats your boat, I'm not a "partnering" type of person anyway. When you go into a used car dealer do you put his needs above your own and hope hope hope that he does the same for you? I certainly don't. I try to get the best deal I can and expect him to do the same. If he wants to give away the car for free, I'll take it. And to those who say that the dating/marriage market ain't the same as a used car dealership, take a good look in the mirror. That doesn't sound anything like my relationship thank goodness! I hope not for anyone else.
Twenty-ten Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 That's why I asked if he put everyone's needs first as well, I don't see how that could be healthy and at the same time expect someone who does to also be a good thing.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 That doesn't sound anything like my relationship thank goodness! I hope not for anyone else. Well I just hope that the other person in your relationship feels the same as you and not the same as I. Otherwise you're going to be in for some serious hurt.
sally4sara Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Well I just hope that the other person in your relationship feels the same as you and not the same as I. Otherwise you're going to be in for some serious hurt. I'm not worried about it, but thanks for your concern just the same. If he (or anyone) handled that kind of life gift so shabby, it wouldn't be me mostly hurt as it would him for the loss of it.
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