m0onlight Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 (edited) This guy comes from GB and was my teacher. He 's come to France ( where I live ) for his studies . We got along rather well when he was my teacher, and I had like a crush on him . So i asked him his mail to keep in touch . We communicated a little bit by mails , and then, we decided to go for a drink. He gave me his phone number so that we could communicate more easily . I appreciated . Then, we met for a drink, BUT he asked me what i was intending, if I wanted him to bring one of his friends, if I would be myself bringing some friends ... It surprised me a little bit, but I didn't wanna be too "overwhelming" or to make him feel uncomfortable, so I called my friends and we spent a great night . We did that again several times in the week, but I grew frustrated of never being really alone with him . I couldn't say if he liked me or not . I mean, he's smiling at me, touches me sometimes, puts his hand on my knee, or in my back, but in a very subtle and quick way, u know, so it's hard to tell what it really means.. I decided to ask him out for a pizza,, which he accepted. We were just the two of us, and spoke about intimate things, laughed also, I really felt comfortable. Then, he suggested that we go for a drink, which seemed to mean that he was having a good time with me..But there was no moment when I could say "oh he's going to kiss me there..." no real opportunity you know...But he marched me off , held the door for me, some things like that which are kinda romantic.. H e asked me to help him with a letter he has to write in French, so again we were just two, then I took advantage of that to ask him to go eat somewhere, and then to hang out a little, so we spent like maybe 6hours together . But again, except smiles, nice looks , and a certain proximity when we were sitting next to each other, there's no real clue telling me that he has feelings for me. I didn't contact him during the whole holiday, and he was the one sending me a message after the break, to ask me very briefly but with a note of humour if I was up for the tennis we had talked about during our dinner. We met in the week to check what courts were free, and we ended up at the library a couple of times , him preparing his lessons, me working on my courses. He asked me for some help from time to time with french words, and although we were in a public and non intimate place, I'd say there was some sort of proximity. I mean he told me that he 's usually harassed at the library by his female students, and so he doesn't go there very often but with me it seems different since he told me when he would come to the library, suggesting implicitly that my presence would not disturb him... We went to play tennis, and had a great time. He won the match , and well let's say humiliated me with his wonderful strokes, but we really had fun. But once the tennis part was over, and when we were taking the bus, I dont know he seemed quite detached, he didn't let anything appear, there were no big eye contacts, and I can't really get close to him physically. I am very nervous, fighting to find sth interesting to say, but in a bus, it's not the most appropriate place to get to know the other person and have deep conversations. So i am afraid he finds me quite uninteresting..I asked him if he would be free in the week, but he didn't really tell me, and said that he would let me know.. Then we kissed for goodbye, in a very common way, but that seemed to last a little bit longer than it should have, as if he wanted to make the moment last ... but maybe I'm just fancying... During the week, I came across him (a real coincidence!) in a library which was completely out of the campus, and when I went to talk to him, I was so nervous, that I didn't really know what to say. He seemed quite embarassed too, not very talkative i don't know maybe I was disturbing him... I waited for his news during the week, and I just got a message on Friday, asking me if I fancied a tennis tomorrow ... I'm quite confused cause I had hoped that he would ask me for a drink rather, and although I love tennis, that's not the best way to get close... So was it a polite way to tell me that he's just interested in me as a tennis buddy, or what? That's what I think cause on Monday, I sent him a message to ask him if he was up for a drink , and he never answered ! Not even a "no sorry, i can't.' ... NOTHING ! I really don't know what to think... Is he pushing me away ? But I wouldn't understand cause I never let him understand that i liked him, i never harassed him, so why would he be so brutal and rude ? What do you think people ? How should I react when I see him again ? Acting like I never sent the message or what ?! Edited March 17, 2010 by m0onlight
boogieboy Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 If he didnt answer yoru message, he isnt interested. If you see him, you have to confront him on this, to see if his reaction is a bs one. If he says he didnt get it, see if he looks surprised and looks you in the eye. If he doesnt, then hes lying. If he gives any other excuse, and doesnt look you in the eye, it will be BS. You will probably have to write this one off anyway.
Author m0onlight Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Okay that's what I planned to do anyway, confronting him on it with a note of humour cause I dont wanna be too "overwhelming" . I myself am not very fond of texting, so sometimes it happens that I give no news.. But what makes things a little bit more complicated is that he 's not a date like a guy you meet once for dinner, and he never calls you back, and you never see him again. We are, I hope so, sort of friends, we play tennis together on Saturdays, so he'll have to keep seeing me, or he suddenly wants to cut me out of his life but I really don't see WHY ! I never confessed my feelings for him, and doesn't let anything show through. So this is weird...
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