myhearthurtsbadly Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Hi all, i wrote a thread last night about me being pretty low last night. I decided to go out with some girl-friends of mine. I had spoken to my ex earlier in the day and she knew where i would go if i went out. Arrived at the club looking forward to a good night and walked through to the smoking area. Who do i see on the way? Only my ex wearing a tight dress, high boots and no tights looking like a prostitute. My friends pulled me away and we went outside. Had a cigarette and then went back in to dance. She comes upto us awkwardly and says hi. It was quite funny actually just at that moment a photographer came up and asked to take our picture! Anyway i ask what the hell she is doing here and start to walk away. She follows me outside and stands against the wall, we talked for a bit and out of nowhere she kisses me. BTW she was a bit drunk. I could see the lust in her eyes and she was trying to be flirty but then said she had to find her friends. I said id help but after a few look round the club the only 'friend/girl shed met that night' had left which makes me think she only came to the club to see me. Anyway we then danced for one song and she was askikng stuff like 'is that your new girlfriend?' and saying 'shes ugly compared to me' etc. I then asked why her friends werent here anymore and she said she wanted to go home. I took her outside ordered a taxi and waited with her whilst girls on the que looked at her like she was a prostitute. Put her in the taxi and she kissed me again. I went back in to the club and managed to have a really good night but im not sure what her actions mean. I havent contacted her today and dont intend to, just wandering what you guys think...
sean1970 Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Hi all, i wrote a thread last night about me being pretty low last night. I decided to go out with some girl-friends of mine. I had spoken to my ex earlier in the day and she knew where i would go if i went out. Arrived at the club looking forward to a good night and walked through to the smoking area. Who do i see on the way? Only my ex wearing a tight dress, high boots and no tights looking like a prostitute. My friends pulled me away and we went outside. Had a cigarette and then went back in to dance. She comes upto us awkwardly and says hi. It was quite funny actually just at that moment a photographer came up and asked to take our picture! Anyway i ask what the hell she is doing here and start to walk away. She follows me outside and stands against the wall, we talked for a bit and out of nowhere she kisses me. BTW she was a bit drunk. I could see the lust in her eyes and she was trying to be flirty but then said she had to find her friends. I said id help but after a few look round the club the only 'friend/girl shed met that night' had left which makes me think she only came to the club to see me. Anyway we then danced for one song and she was askikng stuff like 'is that your new girlfriend?' and saying 'shes ugly compared to me' etc. I then asked why her friends werent here anymore and she said she wanted to go home. I took her outside ordered a taxi and waited with her whilst girls on the que looked at her like she was a prostitute. Put her in the taxi and she kissed me again. I went back in to the club and managed to have a really good night but im not sure what her actions mean. I havent contacted her today and dont intend to, just wandering what you guys think... Unless anything meaningful was discussed ('how do we work this out' = meaningful), it's a control thing dude... You showed her she can have you when she wants... How does that feel?
mrkleen Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 You showed her she can have you when she wants... How does that feel? How did he show her that? If he WENT HOME with her - maybe he would have showed her that. I think he played his cards perfectly.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Why did you aloow her to kiss you, TWICE!? you wasnt drunk right? And this is a lesbian relationship correct? i need more backstory and why you are broken up and why the hell are you at the same club, if you didnt want to be there around her, why didnt you just leave?
Ilovecake Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 sounds to me like you're both playing major head games with eachother. you're telling her where you're going out to, she shows up, you guys make out. drama drama and more drama.
Author myhearthurtsbadly Posted March 17, 2010 Author Posted March 17, 2010 no its not a lesbian relationship. We went to the same club because we both go to the same university and she knows i go there on Tuesdays, she doesnt usually go because she doesnt like that music. I was a bit drunk but i didnt ler her kiss me she just did and i couldnt avoid it. If i had wanted i could have gone back to hers but i didnt because i wanted a night for myself for once without having to think too much about her. I think its a power thing, she knows other girls will be all over me so even though she has broken up with me she has to have me. Its so cruel for exes to do that, no matter whether they are tipsy or not. I feel ok today but i go home on friday and she has to stay for another week. She is then going on a two week holiday. Am i week for being worried when i cant see her if i wanted to? In a way i like knowing she is near so i can help her if she needs (she has heart problems). She has broken up with me 5 or 6 times like this but always comes back. I know i can't accept that anymore but neither of us can accept not having each other if you know what i mean. It is really ****ing annoying though when i ask to meet in the evening for a chat, she says no "stop trying to stop what i am trying to do" and then she pitches up to a place where she knows il be and kisses me. ahhh!
OOReeee Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 in my opinion you did pretty well. Both of you were drunk, and commons sense in many cases is turned off. You put her on a cab instead of going with her, and I think that that's what she really wanted. you cant stop living your life and having fun, she is pathetic for pulling those tricks on you. stay strong.
looseleaf2004 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 You should have just left when she got there
Author myhearthurtsbadly Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 You should have just left when she got there why the hell should i leave and let her completely ruin my night?
HLP234 Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 You must be handling it pretty well. I'm glad my ex doesn't like to go out. I dunno how I would react if i saw her somewhere in public..mostly because she left me without saying **** so yeh I have my reasons to be upset still. But I don't think you did anything wrong, considering you guys were somewhat drunk, what happened is done and good thing you didn't go home with her. I would not have let her kiss me though, therefore showing some of your boundaries. But don't let it bring you down, think of it as something simple and go on. And don't let her ruing your night, personally I would have went to another club if I had caught a glimpse of her, because there are plenty more in my area, but in your case you're right I suppose.
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