Lurve2win Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Hey everybody need help bad!!! It's been 5 weeks now since she broke up with me but I'll start from the start. We were together for 3 years, she was 16 I was 19 at first. I lived with her family for 2 of those they were cool with having me there. We went on holidays and I showed her the adult world. I was her first sexual partner aswell. We did alot of strange and fun things together, perfect! At the end of our 2nd year together, she wanted me to propose to her everyday so on our anniversary i did. Everyone knew except my family because they didn't know her and there strict about that, so for the next year I got her down to my folks every fortnite to make them happy. So to now, we had a few arguments and they got worse but we always made up, it was over little things. Then we had another argument and I said terrible things. She wanted me out that nite. When I got there she said it's over and I was an emotional wreck! she said to me get help and call in 4-6 months. So after I tried convincing I gave up and picked up half of my clothes. Come that weekend I go back to pick the rest up, I remain happy but she starts crying, she's got a new tv and I'm telling her she's doing great. She starts crying again we talk, she now says it's just a 3 month break to get our lives together, next she says she's hungry I say let's go out as 2 different people, nothing suss. During this her dad calls and she says it's not bad it's just a break. She tells her mum about going out and the mum says no it's meant to break. So we don't go. As I'm leaving she says I have to be brutal to you. 3 days later she calls saying my phone bill has come and to pick it up, we talk more and I tell her I love her and says it back and then says what you don't belive me. I say do. Next day she SMS saying I can't sleep and still says it's not for long before we hugging again. Anyway 3 days later driving by I see her we both pull over, and she's now saying that it's not going to happen now and doesn't want to give me false hope and too many people are involved and wants me to change my bill to my name. A week passes i change my image and I go to her work and tell her I'm changing the bill now. We talk again I try convincing again saying everything I did wrong and it will change with a break she now says I'm happy now, go and find a better girl, also she has a new bf ( I find out she isn't seeing anyone). I say well I'm glad your happy and I go. Another week later she demands the rest of my stuff to go being tough, and I ask for the ring back, she said she's selling it. But I don't belive her. I tell her I'll send someone to get it, next day she calls and asks if everything cool to get the stuff being extremly nice, I get the ring back. 4 days later my birthday and no txt or call nothing I've maintained nc for 2 weeks now. She is very strong minded to very independant and listens to family and friends heavily, sorry for the long story but I love her still and need to know what do???? I want her back she was my best friend
Author Lurve2win Posted March 22, 2010 Author Posted March 22, 2010 does anybody know what i should do??? any advice would be great
jerrytodd Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 The answer is that to go no contact and let her work out the issues. You are so young that this will be a distant memory soon. It wont give you the immediate solution you are looking for but you cannot make someone love you in the way you want them to. Sorry, it will take time and may never happen. All the best.
Author Lurve2win Posted March 26, 2010 Author Posted March 26, 2010 ive done no contact, except i asked to wish her brother happy birthday and she responded with "sure", and her birthday is in may and my plan is to give her flowers and a card with a little message with nothing emotional. and if nothing eventuates from that a phone call a few weeks later. what do you ppl think???
KevinHJW Posted March 26, 2010 Posted March 26, 2010 The answer is that to go no contact and let her work out the issues. You are so young that this will be a distant memory soon. It wont give you the immediate solution you are looking for but you cannot make someone love you in the way you want them to. Sorry, it will take time and may never happen. All the best. i cant agree with jerrytodd more. maybe nobody has the ability to make another person love them in the way he/she wants to. that's sad, but lets face it. however in yr case, i think things might be different. u guys are young and shared alot first-time fantastic memories. this is far different from my breakup. if i were you, at the age of 22, i'll definitely try again. but once again, u should know when to stop and accept. love maybe the most beautiful thing on the earth, so let us do not ruin it even when it comes to an end. god bless u.
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