aimchase Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 So i've posted the lifes and times of the ex on here before. Today though has hurt me deeply. I had an Yahoo Messenger account where I was disguised as someone else, and would sometimes talk to the ex. This wasn't because i'm snooping, but because I know what her conduct can be like and i'm trying to gage if her communication is a threat to her or my children. I've said before but just to repeat, she has mental issues, as does her family. She suffers personality disorder and chronic depression. Today, she pinged me and said 'hi'. I asked how she was. She said not good, she'd had a big fight with her ex, the dad of her kids (that's me). I responded, 'oh? What happened?' She proceeded to tell me that I had beaten the **** out of her and the police had arrested me. She went on to say that I was a brutal thug. I went to ask a further question on it but oddly, she signed out rather quicky after making the accusation. Guilt perhaps? I'm just worried she's trying to convince herself that her lies are true. There was never, ever, a shred of violence between us. She told me when I met her that her ex's beat her up, now she continues the same line. But this is different, she's telling people (online and who she doesn't know, I presume, as anybody who knows me knows that I don't have a single violent bone in my body) this, when I am the father of our children. I find it hurtful, disgusting and at the moment, unforgivable. I don't know whether to tell her it was me and what I think (which will result in WWIII), or just to leave it and put it down to her current state of mind. What would you do? Aim
Author aimchase Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 Thanks babe. I'm not going to sleep tonight now, it really has hit me that badly. I know it's attention seeking but surely even for people of that mindset, there are limits to what you're prepared to say? That is lower than a snake's belly.
tnttim Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Woh woh woh wait a minute. You are acting like someone else online so you can check up on ex? Do you find anything wrong with what you're doing? If you say kids well being, then my next question is: If you can't use it in court and you can't really prevent something from happening, are you sure this isn't just satisfying your curiosity?
Author aimchase Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 Woh woh woh wait a minute. You are acting like someone else online so you can check up on ex? Do you find anything wrong with what you're doing? If you say kids well being, then my next question is: If you can't use it in court and you can't really prevent something from happening, are you sure this isn't just satisfying your curiosity? Totally - she's had OM for ages ffs, her love life is not my concern. My worry always was, however, that she would do something like this - fabricate things about me or place herself in a position where she was falsely exposing people. The ID was set up months and months ago, but automatically signs in when I boot my PC. I didn't think anything of it until I received the message, which was the first i'd had in a long time. I took a screenshot of it so could pass to my lawyer anyway for an opinion.
tnttim Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Does the opinion of complete strangers bother you that much. Your are separated from your W for a reason. You are playing games whether you like to admit it or not. At least be honest with yourself and admit that making a fake name to spy on WS is a little twisted.
Author aimchase Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 Fair enough - it's your opinion and that's what this is about. I would repeat though that this is an ID from months ago, when we very recently separated and I hadn't spoken on it for a long time. Re the OP - she pinged me to talk, I made no intention of contacting her at all. Therefore to an extent I can accept the criticism but for a previous period when I was very raw.
tnttim Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Okay I understand, makes more sense, and I could see myself playing along, then getting mad at her responses and lying. What if she tried to cyber sex with you?
spriggig Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Woh woh woh wait a minute. You are acting like someone else online so you can check up on ex? Do you find anything wrong with what you're doing? I'm not proud of this, but if I thought I could pull this off, I'd probably try. The temptation is huge to know what she is really thinking right now.
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