sedgwick Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 So, for those who don't know, I'm traveling alone in Mexico for 10 months, and I've been meeting people from all over the world. Last night I had dinner with a beautiful French Canadian singer. She was very "classically" pretty -- blonde, thin curvy body, etc. While we were at dinner, a Mexican man at another table sent over a large bottle of beer. I couldn't see him very well from were I was sitting because there was a palm tree blocking my view, so he couldn't see me well either, but we DID see each other. She said hello to him and told me she'd met him briefly the day before, but was a bit freaked out because he came on really strong. He looked quite perplexed that she didn't come over and sit with him. When the check came, I saw that the waiter had crossed off everything my companion ate. The man had paid her portion of the bill. Leaving me, of course, to pay for myself and feel totally humiliated, like what he was saying was that I was too fat and ugly to pay for. Like he didn't like her enough to pay for hideous ME. I'm trying to tell myself it's not about me and he probably didn't even notice me because he was too busy staring at her. Would you be hurt and take this to mean you were fat and ugly, or is it just me?
anne1707 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 No. I would take it to mean that he was rude, ignorant and not worth you worrying about. It's him, not you.
deux ex machina Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Definitely no reflection on you whatsoever. He's very rude. He can own it.
myhearthurtsbadly Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 what an ahole forget about it no reflection on you whatsoever.
sao2 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 It has nothing to do with you although it is extremely rude.
sally4sara Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 My opinions of his manners aside, I think he was pursuing her and so paid as an effort to woo her. Not wishing to be misleading, he did not also cover your bill so as to send a clear message of interest to her rather than have the gesture seem merely friendly or confuse the two of you as to whom he was giving the eye. I know you've gone through a lot and have perhaps yet to get back up from under it enough to recognize your value. But there is an eye for every star; it just wasn't your night for being appreciated. And thank goodness! I'd like to see you get a guy with better manners.
Rearden Metal Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I don't know what it's like in Mexico, but in my mind even trying to pay for someone's dinner whom you're not ACTUALLY having dinner with is an arrogant gesture. I'd chalk it up to this guy being a douchebag and move on.
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