having a tough one tonight (need some comforting words!)

[myhearthurtsbadly]

Hi guys,

 

feeling very low tonight. Spoke to my ex earlier was civil but now i miss her more. I just want her in my arms again but at the moment she says things like "you should have been like that in the relationship" and other stuff which is totally unfair. Why do dumpers always make out like you have been in the wrong always? I miss her, can't bring myself to go out but hate moping. Im terrified of her sleeping with someone else, turns my stomach. She said shes getting drunk tonight and even that scares me. I should have stayed no contact. Ahh guess im just a little bit lonely and miss my best friend (her). Any comments would be lovely to read. Thanks

[OOReeee]

It sucks, and it's gonna be hard for you and it's ok to mope, and cry and be depressed.

It seems like you should stay with the no contact and do not break it, not even for a "civil" talk because it'll just bring you back to square one.

You should surround yourself with friends and people to talk to and express the emotions, and it's ok to think about her and being terrified by her being with someone else is a legitimate concern.

 

Dumpers often have a guilty conscience and they tend to blame it on the dumpees just to make themselves feel good and in control. If she, indeed, said things that you think are unfair, then she sucks.

Don't call her out though. Don't talk to her, facebook stalk her or anything else. Just be strong because these rough days will pass, one day at a time.