robdrm32 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Ok i'll try to be brief here, but its long. Been working with a girl over a year now, lately we have been getting along great and i've been getting the green light, and i definitely like her. We'll call her Kim. Now theres this other girl, who is a stripper that works there as well, as a front for her family, we'll call her Pam. She's made it obvious what she wants but I never pursued anything, just not my cup of tea. So on friday I was texting Kim and she said she heard "through the grapevine" that Pam made a move on me, I said no, she put it out but no move was made. I asked who told her this and she wouldn't tell me, telling me that it was someone from outside work. So I was annoyed but no biggie. The next day I go into work and the baker mentions she heard something about "Me and Pam" I said no, who told you that? She said a couple of guys that worked there were just bsing about it. So now I get the impression people are spreading rumors. That didn't bother me too much b/c I don't care what they think, but I got real irritated with Kim b/c she wouldn't tell me who said something to her but, according to her we are "best friends" and all buddy buddy. So i said to Kim calmly yet sternly, "I'm a little irritated because we're supposedly friends but you won't tell me who said that." Well Kim got very upset, saying "OMG really? you really just said that?" And i said "what?" and she says "i dunno i'm just confused by that statement" so for the rest of the night she avoided me, when normally she's hanging out and spending all her time back with me. So at the end of the night I said I know your upset, but could you talk to me? and she said she thought it was rude what i said and that she didnt think it was that big a deal etc. And i said i felt like i was being messed with. So our convo got cut short (someone showed up) and we left. So yesterday i texted her telling her that i only asked b/c the baker mentioned it beforehand and i thought people were spreading rumors. She said i shouldn't have been so livid, and why didn't i tell her saturday? I said I got flustered which she said was alright but she would rather be the last person I take it out on, and i said "I know your right, i'm sorry, wont happen again" Now i wasn't livid with her at all, just said that one thing, and she freaked out, so I feel like she blew it out of proportion by avoiding me the way she did. Talking with a few people, they say nobody probably said anything to her and that she just wanted to know for herself because she likes me. Which is fine, but it came across as kind of sketchy to me, that she was just trying to get me to like her but just playing games in reality. And i guess if nobody had said anything its hard for her to say "I just wanted to know" because she's definitely an Introvert and a bit shy. And now i feel like the damage has been done and its going to make things weird which sucks because I was getting close to asking her out. but maybe i'm just over reacting in that sense, and things aren't "ruined". But i also feel like i wimped out by apologizing to her when I really only said that one thing. Now i'm looking for a summation of her reactions, mine and where to go from here. any input appreciated, thanks.
phineas Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Maybe she got pissed because you called her "friend" ? LOL!
Author robdrm32 Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 heh well she knows i like her so dont think thats it.
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