McGrupp Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 what is this ****e. i see so many posts.. "my ex and his/her new whatever just posted pics on fbook/ he/she just jumped on MSN, he texted me" where's caliguy's guides when you neeed em? block them on fbook, block them on msn, block their email, block their calls. if they want you that bad they will find you. stop wondering what they are doing and start living your life. christ almighty, its so easy...it will take 15 minutes of your time to do all these things and i gurantee you after the initial curiousity goes away...sweet indifference will quietly role in. but only if you go FULL NC!!! (no excuses)
Author McGrupp Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 (edited) good. my buddy just put in some shelves. my dad spotted me a couch. now i just need the 60' LCD. i have a huge collection of concert posters, but didnt realize how expensive they would be to nicely frame. so i picked up this one http://www.behindthehype.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/cool_hand_luke.jpg on the cheap. kinda reminds me of something GrayClouds said to me once about "brass balls" so im doing that. i also have a lot of women in my life right now. weird times for me, but im trying to live in the now as they say. also something, maybe an act of god happened!. a giant tree crashed on my moms car. huge. she was fine it happened in the driveway. pic of act of god: http://i43.tinypic.com/9k17v6.jpg anyway whilst uploading the pics on her computer because i was stuck there, i saw a pic of me and the ex from May. she looked horrible. i mean absolutely ugly as hell. double chin everything. but it really helped to take her off that perfect pedestal i had created. but i cant emphasize how much dating is helping and moving on and meeting new people. go out there and do something... act of god or not, i felt great afterwards... Edited March 16, 2010 by McGrupp
Rearden Metal Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread... Yeah, we should all be NC and happy. But then they'd take down LS. That's no fun. Sounds like you're livin' it up, man! Good for you! Def agree that a 60" LCD is a necessity. Porn is way better on that ;P It's funny about seeing the pic of the ex. My ex is very very pretty facially, but I remember sometimes looking at her and she looked pudgy, worn and .... well yeah, ugly. It's hard to believe it was the same girl. But... we all have our bad days. Some days I look like a pile of vomit, too!
sally4sara Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Why haven't I gone NC with my ex? Because I have a kid with him. I'd LOVE to go NC with him as I don't seem anything valuable from having continued interaction with him, but it is impossible.
Author McGrupp Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 no jack. i think sabotaging your healing (im not saying you, RM) with technology is a problem a lot of people have while trying to heal. just practice some self control. call text someone else. use that fbook time on a dating site, or creating a website or running. its so easy but the first steps are hard.
mikeymad Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Man, I was having a particulary hard day, and was wondering WWMGD, since you seem to have been in the same down-trodden place i'm in right now. I'm trying so hard to go NC, but those urges to contact her, especially at night, are horrible considering my new apt is only about 2 miles away from our old house. I would like nothing more than to run up to her door and bang away until she answers. I'm not sure if I'd grovel or cuss her out...that is until the cops came. How did you finally get to the place where you could give up hope and go NC?
Author McGrupp Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 How did you finally get to the place where you could give up hope and go NC? time. waking up one day and realizing they threw you away, they are just a woman, you wont let one women waste anymore of your thoughts or hold you back from the being the best you can be. also realizing that if you said something to them, it wouldnt matter.
mikeymad Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 So do you just distract the h*ll outta yourself in the meantime? How did you combat those urges to keep going back for more...
Ilovecake Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 good. my buddy just put in some shelves. my dad spotted me a couch. now i just need the 60' LCD. i have a huge collection of concert posters, but didnt realize how expensive they would be to nicely frame. so i picked up this one http://www.behindthehype.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/cool_hand_luke.jpg on the cheap. kinda reminds me of something GrayClouds said to me once about "brass balls" Go to somewhere like Michaels or JoAnn fabric and pick up frames when they're on sale, they have really good deals sometimes. Frame the posters yourself. That's what I've done. I have a bunch or really beautiful limited addition gig posters that come in all kinds of odd dimensions, never had a problem finding a frame there. Just do one or two posters at a time.
nobmagnet Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 so great to see you are in a better place its like being re- born. woo hoo..........never heard you say so much! Nobby xx:D
Sadbutrelieved Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Yes, it is time to make that call to change my phone number. My ex won't stop calling me about once a week about the most ignorant things. I meant to do it already but I've been out enjoying the lovely weather.
onetoughkitty Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 I can't go full no contact because we have a daughter together but other than for her, it's no contact from here on out. Just too much drama!!!
tylerdurden Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 because as sad as it sounds, some of us were hanging to a glimpse of hope, so therefore we allowed them to throw us breadcrumbs.. I did until yesterday,when pissed off at her sending me 2 lines emails, I asked her if she has anything more to tell me..I told her If she had I would be glad to hear it,otherwise she will have to shut the hell up until the end of times.. Of course I didnt hear anything from her... Case closed..
GrayClouds Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 so i picked up this one http://www.behindthehype.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/cool_hand_luke.jpg on the cheap. kinda reminds me of something GrayClouds said to me once about "brass balls" Originally Posted by GrayClouds "Ding Ding Ding, this man wins the prize!" "What does he winnnnnnnnnn?" "A fabulous set of rock hard balls that will give he the courage to stop doing unproductive, selfish, and ultimately hurtful things to himself and those around him. These vintage styled chestnuts comes from the strong but sensitive man collection and used by Paul Newman in"Cool Hand Luke" and rumored to be used by Viggo Mortenson on "History of Violence". With proper care and polishing they will last a lifetime! And your putting them to very good use McGrupp!
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