anny89 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Hello , ok , so am a 20 year old girl and my girlfriend is 42 we are both deeply in love , however my girlfriend refuses to buy me drinks in public fearing she might get in troubles since the drinking age is 21 in NY , she has no problems with me drinking alone or at home or closed parties but not in public ,so anyways i dont want to make a big deal out of it as i understand her concerns but i also hate it when we go out with her friends and i cant drink , i want to talk to her but i always feel selfish putting my needs ahead of hers . so do you think i should talk to her about this , i get very embarrassed while with her friends because sometimes they tease me about this .* i know they probably trying to point out what they think the ridiculous age gap between us* and i get really mad not being able to prove myself as an an equal partnership to them. do you think am selfish asking my girlfriend to do what i want instead of what she should?? thanks
Confusedguy81 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 you arent 21. Can't you wait a year or whatever? I think she just wants to keep herself and you outta trouble...
sally4sara Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Ignore her friends teasing you, they are just trying to get under your skin. They sound like they're jealous. You will be 21 before you know it and then this issue will disappear. She isn't not buying you drinks to make you feel bad. She likes hanging out with you and if she buys you drinks, the both of you could get kicked out of the bar or worse.
Confusedguy81 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Also to add, the best way to deal with the friends is show your maturity and confidence. You may have to even fire back with some words if they are being too harsh. They see you as a kid. Show them you arent.
sally4sara Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Yeah, I forgot to add that I don't think you're being selfish, I think you're getting antsy - impatient. That can come off as immature so be careful about how you react to the situation.
Author anny89 Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 sally4sara and confusedguy , thnx for your reply
New Again Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Hello , ok , so am a 20 year old girl and my girlfriend is 42 we are both deeply in love , however my girlfriend refuses to buy me drinks in public fearing she might get in troubles since the drinking age is 21 in NY , she has no problems with me drinking alone or at home or closed parties but not in public ,so anyways i dont want to make a big deal out of it as i understand her concerns but i also hate it when we go out with her friends and i cant drink , i want to talk to her but i always feel selfish putting my needs ahead of hers . so do you think i should talk to her about this , i get very embarrassed while with her friends because sometimes they tease me about this .* i know they probably trying to point out what they think the ridiculous age gap between us* and i get really mad not being able to prove myself as an an equal partnership to them. do you think am selfish asking my girlfriend to do what i want instead of what she should?? thanks Yes you are being selfish. Do you want her to go to jail?
make me believe Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I think you're just being unrealistic. When you're over 21 you'll understand. Buying underage people drinks in public is just something you DON'T take a chance on!
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