kassy Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 So I met this guy online, we had a lot of emailing, the went for drinks and dinner, now we are back to emailing but there is just no suggestion of date #2. He's not a player, he's not on online dating anymore, I'm the first person he's dated after his divorce 2 years ago, and he works shifts and has an interview for work before the end of the month he's studying for and we live just under 2 hours away from each other... I just don't understand the point of all this emailing if he doesn't want to meet up again? And if he does want to meet up again, why doesn't he just say he does after his interview so there seems some point? Is this a waste of time? Any insight from the guys? He seems really great, but then in reality I hardly know him. cheers
silic0ntoad Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Hm. Maybe you should ask him on a second date? Sometimes you have to pursue a little bit. If he is still contacting you, interest is still there.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 He's "orbiting." Kinda interested, kinda not. Happens to me all the time. I'll email a girl asking what she's doing, then I'll think, "eh, I'm not all that interested," and won't pursue asking her out. Then a couple days later I'll get a little interested again, email her once more. The cycle continues. It's frustrating for both parties.
Mary3 Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 He's not interested.... Because if he were NOTHING could keep him from seeing you in the flesh... The email stuff , yeah , he see's you as a friend or feels an obligation to email back. I will go as far as to say he feels a connection but its buddy buddy.. Move forward.
carhill Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Accept the attentions of men closer to home. Press flesh more; keyboards less. When I read ladies profiles and they mention '5/10/15 xxx miles', and I know I'm beyond that, I respect that. Relationships exist in the real world, and, honestly, it's hard to get to know a person in the real world when they live at a distance not easily bridged. You had one date. I would presume, at this point, you expect him to pursue and bridge that two hours distance repeatedly. If I were him, it would be on my mind. Do the math. Move on
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