MoxieGal Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I met this fire fighter back in October of 2009 and when we met there were major sparks between us. He/we couldn't stop staring each other in the eyes. It was a strange connection that we both felt, even others took notice and were curious about what was going on between us. Well our encounter was extremely brief and we lost contact after that day. Almost five months has gone bye since then, and I've recently locate him & his email address at the fire-station that he works at. It's been 9 days since I sent him an email reminding him of who I am and wondering if he'd be interested in meeting for coffee?. What's driving me crazy is wondering and trying to figure why he hasn't replied back yet?! The day we met he exibited extreme timid/shy behavior, despite us locking eyes. Does his lack of replying to my email mean that he's not interested, or does it mean that he's as shy about emails as he is in person? Is it possible that he's shocked to hear from me after such time lapse and he's thinking about it all? Note that it did take me almost 5 months to contact him since that day we met because of my nerves, is it possible that he's just as cautious and nervous? Any feedback would be much appreciated!
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 No way to know for sure, but I'd put my money on not interested.
Silver_star Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I met this fire fighter back in October of 2009 and when we met there were major sparks between us. He/we couldn't stop staring each other in the eyes. It was a strange connection that we both felt, even others took notice and were curious about what was going on between us. Well our encounter was extremely brief and we lost contact after that day. Almost five months has gone bye since then, and I've recently locate him & his email address at the fire-station that he works at. It's been 9 days since I sent him an email reminding him of who I am and wondering if he'd be interested in meeting for coffee?. What's driving me crazy is wondering and trying to figure why he hasn't replied back yet?! The day we met he exibited extreme timid/shy behavior, despite us locking eyes. Does his lack of replying to my email mean that he's not interested, or does it mean that he's as shy about emails as he is in person? Is it possible that he's shocked to hear from me after such time lapse and he's thinking about it all? Note that it did take me almost 5 months to contact him since that day we met because of my nerves, is it possible that he's just as cautious and nervous? Any feedback would be much appreciated! You dont know him...not really. He could have a family for all you know. I think he may be creeped out that you "located" him, and hes not interested or he would have contacted you. Sorry to say..youll find another connection. ..next time deal with it at that time.
boogieboy Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 If he doesnt reply either he is not interested, or it went to his spam and he discarded it. Dont build up emotions for someone when you have no idea if he is involved or not. Did you even talk to him when you first met of did you just lock eyes?
Author MoxieGal Posted March 17, 2010 Author Posted March 17, 2010 Did you even talk to him when you first met or did you just lock eyes? [sIZE=2]Yes, we talked, but briefly. We shared a few smiles too. I'm actually pretty confident that he WAS interested, but the fact that it's now been 10 days since I sent him an email asking him out for coffee and nothing yet...seems strange. Seems like he's not interested, but then again if you were to witness his behavior that day...he was so timid. It was so funny, in a charming way. He's not married, or at least he wasn't five months ago when we met...no rings. Also, if he were involved with someone at the time, why would he put forth so much effort to come meet me (a perfect stranger) and converse with me?. That's why I asked, is he shy or is he just not interested?? Do you really think it's possible that he didn't receive my email, hence the spam filter?? [/sIZE]
Silver_star Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 yes but its possible he is NOW involved with someone.
Author MoxieGal Posted March 17, 2010 Author Posted March 17, 2010 Thank you to everyone so far for their input. Much appreciated!
adamt Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 Men tend not to respond if they are no longer interested. I must admit, i've been guilty of it in the past. we see it as a kind way to let them down gently.
ashleigh422 Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 NEXT.. If a man is interested, he will make the attempt to contact you. He didn't and you eventually did.. *by tracking him down* Unfortunatley hun, he isn't interested... I hate to tell you that.. becuase I know how bad it hurts to hear.. but the truth will set you free.. stop holding on to the "what ifs" and realize you deserve more.. and you deserve to find someon who wants to be with you.
D-Lish Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 If the guy was interested, he would have made plans right away and never let you walk away in the first place. He has no interest in you. Don't humiliate yourself by chasing after him. Never chase a guy- if you have to, it's safe to say he doesn't care.
Author MoxieGal Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Thanks everyone, good advice! *Peace
Author MoxieGal Posted March 21, 2010 Author Posted March 21, 2010 If he doesnt reply either he is not interested, or it went to his spam and he discarded it. Dont build up emotions for someone when you have no idea if he is involved or not. Did you even talk to him when you first met or did you just lock eyes? Yes, we talked, but briefly. We shared a few smiles too. I'm actually pretty confident that he WAS interested, but the fact that it's now been 2 weeks since I sent him an email asking him out for coffee and nothing yet...seems strange. Seems like he's not interested, but then again if you were to witness his behavior that day...he was so timid. It was so funny, in a charming way. Do you really think it's largely possible that he didn't receive my email, hence the spam filter?? **timid... Main Entry: tim·id Pronunciation: \ˈti-məd\ Function: adjective Etymology: Latin timidus, from timēre to fear Date: 1549 1 : lacking in courage or self-confidence <a timid person> 2 : lacking in boldness or determination <a timid policy>
D-Lish Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 But you've laid all the groundwork for him and he still isn't responding... Seriously- he can run into burning buildings and knowingly takes a job where he puts his life on the line everyday but he can't respond to a girl he likes?
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