Whitefox123 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I've been struggling with a relationship for about 2 years now. My ex and I have said we're done with each other a million times, yet somehow we manage to always end up talking and flirting for awhile with the discussion of old times and possibility of trying to make it work. Then one of us (often times him) will run away and all of that will go down the drain. We'll try to move on, start seeing other people but then end up running right back to each other (even if things seem to be going well with that other person). All of this has really taken a toll on me, especially emotionally. He knows that I'm upset about the situation we're in and he tells me he does still want to try to make things work, he just doesn't know what to do because he's never been with anyone else and just wants to know what it's like. (Side note, he's dated, but never had anything serious like we had and has told me he can't seem to find anyone that compares to me) I want to believe that he's just scared, but on the other hand I fear that he's just trying to have his cake and eat it too. So while all this has been going on, I've delveloped into a new person, got new interests,new friends and even changed my style. I'm not letting this hold me back on the outside, although I'm a wreck on the inside. The only thing is, after this last time I REALLY thought it was going to work out...He was even telling me that when we spent time together it felt great and it was like nothing ever happened between us. I'm really frustrated because I feel like he led me on. I'm just not sure where to go from here. I want to write him a letter explaining how emotional f-ed over I feel, but I don't want him to view me as weak. I don't know if I should let this go and go no contact again..but try to make it last a little longer than I have. He's been a little distant lately but I know he has a lot going on in his life at the moment. I just don't understand how one day he's head over heals and the next he's so unsure. Anyone else been here or have any advice as far as if I should stay or if I should go?
onewillburn Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Reminds me so much of my old relationship. I, unfortunately, tended to fit into your exes role more than I would like as far as running off. But I learned from it. Every time you break up and get back together, you're losing respect for one another. The relationship is becoming less and less of a serious thing and more of a joke. So let go. If it were meant to be, you wouldn't be breaking up with each other all of the time. And the reason you go back is more than likely just a way of avoiding real change. Take some time away from him. No contact at all and continue to pursue your hobbies. See how you feel then.
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