Kristy19 Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 You're texting someone and you're going back and forth then all the sudden the person you've been texting doesn't respond until two days later, would that annoy you especially if its happened more than once. I mean its one thing to go sleep but I just feel like if you're tired then say so instead of ignoring and responding two days later and saying "hey baby, how are you? We haven't talked in long time." If it would bother you how would say it bothers you without sounding like a bitch? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 It depends on your relationship. In the early stages of dating I don't keep regular contact with someone and I don't expect them to. Your expectations might be unreasonable if you aren't in a serious relationship with this person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kristy19 Posted March 16, 2010 Author Share Posted March 16, 2010 We aren't in a relationship but this guy he tells me how much he likes talking to me and I'm a cool girl and I remind him of himself and that he really likes me but its just annoying and I'm so tempted to just tell him off and see what he says or something. I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
mella Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 its rude that there's no end to the conversation. Maybe you could calmly tell him that you waited a long time for him to reply to your last text the other night and would appreciate a "good night", or "gotta run", in the future so you aren't left hanging. No need to be a b&tch, though he sounds a bit inconsiderate. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 We aren't in a relationship but this guy he tells me how much he likes talking to me and I'm a cool girl and I remind him of himself and that he really likes me but its just annoying and I'm so tempted to just tell him off and see what he says or something. I don't know. If you're not dating, your expectations are unreasonable. If you want to come off as a crazy person, by all means, blow up at him... If he thinks you're a cool girl, that would probably change his mind pretty quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
mella Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 I would think that was rude of a regular old friend to do. I'd wonder what happened to them if we were having a back and forth for a while and then they just disappeared suddenly. Although, sometimes text convos just die and there is nothing left to say, but that's when I usually say "gotta run, talk to you later" Did you ask him a question he didn't respond to? Link to post Share on other sites
JustLooking123 Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 This is yet another reason why texting as a major means of communication is problematic. Link to post Share on other sites
tkgirl Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 You're texting someone and you're going back and forth then all the sudden the person you've been texting doesn't respond until two days later, would that annoy you especially if its happened more than once. I mean its one thing to go sleep but I just feel like if you're tired then say so instead of ignoring and responding two days later and saying "hey baby, how are you? We haven't talked in long time." If it would bother you how would say it bothers you without sounding like a bitch? yes, flaky people annoy me too.. but it they have other redeeming qualities I will overlook it. But FYI... flaky guys? not good boyfriend material at all. I say friendzone this guy... Link to post Share on other sites
sigurpol Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 Mmm, I wouldn't blow up at the person.. maybe, and I've done it before to before who are flaky like that (including my friends), I would say something like, "geez, welcome back :p".. nothing like, AW YOU GONE AND DONE IT NOW! But I honestly would be playful about it, IF anything. Although, if I like someone more so than usual, I make it a point to finish conversations like that. It does annoy me when people just stop responding, it takes like 5 minutes to text back. Considering the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kristy19 Posted March 16, 2010 Author Share Posted March 16, 2010 I would think that was rude of a regular old friend to do. I'd wonder what happened to them if we were having a back and forth for a while and then they just disappeared suddenly. Although, sometimes text convos just die and there is nothing left to say, but that's when I usually say "gotta run, talk to you later" Did you ask him a question he didn't respond to? He asked me how I was doing and how my weekend was, after I responded, no response. Link to post Share on other sites
desertmoon Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 Texting is not like talking on the phone or writing a letter where there is a salutation or greeting and a complimentary ending. It is just some very short form of making the other person know that even in my really , really busy life...or even when I am being totally lazy, I am letting you know that I thought of you. The problem is, many people treat "textng" as if it is equal to major forms of communication. It is not. Link to post Share on other sites
mella Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 Ok, well if it's really bothering you, and it would bug me, too, I'd just bring it up next time you have a text convo. Be nice, be lighthearted about it, but let him know that it annoys you and you are not accustomed to communicating like that and it throws you off. Personally, if he is "flaky" (as others have put it) about texting, I wonder what else he is going to be flaky about. Consider this something to take note of as you proceed...best wishes! Link to post Share on other sites
mella Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 No one is saying that she requires a salutation and complimentary ending, just some form of notice of when the conversation is over. I don't think that's too much to ask. Regardless, if it's bothering her, and he is her friend, what's wrong with asking him to let her know? Link to post Share on other sites
sigurpol Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 Texting is not like talking on the phone or writing a letter where there is a salutation or greeting and a complimentary ending. It is just some very short form of making the other person know that even in my really , really busy life...or even when I am being totally lazy, I am letting you know that I thought of you. The problem is, many people treat "textng" as if it is equal to major forms of communication. It is not. I agree with this as well... unfortunately, every freaking girl I meet treats it as a major form of communication and will not answer a phone call, haha. Eh, I guess it just all depends. Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 That kind of thing is extremely annoying, and I think the reason it happens as foten as it does is because the technology is so new. No universally agreed-on etiquette exists yet for texting. When you answer the phone, you know to say, "hello?" because phones have been around long enough for ettiquette to exist. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 He asked me how I was doing and how my weekend was, after I responded, no response. Thats not even a conversation, he's just checking on you to make sure you answer him, so he can keep you on the backburner. Dont talk to this guy he'll never take you seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
mrt336 Posted March 16, 2010 Share Posted March 16, 2010 yes, flaky people annoy me too.. but it they have other redeeming qualities I will overlook it. But FYI... flaky guys? not good boyfriend material at all. I say friendzone this guy... Getting tired of texting back and forth to a girl with whom you aren't even dating is not flaky. He owes her nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
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