feelingfine Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Well, I am not sure if this is step one, but I finally went and met with an attourney today. It's like talking to someone in a different language. He sounds like he doesn't mess around. Suggested even sueing the ow for her contribution to the breach in my marital contract. So much to think about. It's a lot different talking with him than with my therapist!! Business on one side and emotions on the other. How have your experiences been? Still hanging in there!!
nobmagnet Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 hi there, My lawyer is a kind of theripist. he asked about Lowlys personality and stuff to see how we could play him and get the best deal but out of court. If you feel this person is too agressive and it sits bad then maybe get a second oppionion. But you really do need to look out for your future. Get the best deal you can but not by doing silly things and losing. I dont know anything about US law im afraid. But look out for you and yours love. Every penny you get is one less you have to scrape to get. All my best Nobby xx:rolleyes:
onedayatatyme Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Lawyers are generally there to conduct business and to do it ruthlessly. Your attorney may/will give you advice that contradicts what your therapist tells you. You'll have to decide for yourself which way to go.
mimidarlin Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 My lawyer initiated our consultation by asking me how I wanted to approach the divorce. I like this because it meant that I dictated our attitude in the process. I want a lawyer who will protect my interests but I need one that is a shark. Well, I don't need the shark yet. The divorce process can bring out the worst in us even when we're trying to be amicable. My STBX isn't great at communicating and asking questions. He's become very bad about speaking before thinking. He isn't detail oriented. If he senses that I am getting frustrated he get very defensive. So you have think...how is the STBX going to handle the process. Would they be open to mediation? You can hire a professional mediator to help reduce the cost of the process. We might go to one if our settlement offer isn't accepted by the STBX. The price per hour was comparable to a lawyer. The process with our potential mediator is to block off four hours to hash out details of a settlement initially. If you guys can sit down and work through some of these issues before going to your lawyer(s) it will save a great deal of time and money.
D-Lish Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 The first lawyer I consulted scared me- he would have had me bleed my exH for everything he was worth and then some.
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