aroll32 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Ok, I witnessed my sister breaking up with her boyfriend of 3 years tonight. She was of course upset. And I gave her my two cents about what she should do and all that. But I've had my mindset made up before this happened. I don't care for a relationship. I don't want to date anyone even if I really like them. And I'm not really sure why. I basically got dumped a little while ago, and had been feeling down for a month or two after. Then my head suddenly changed. Why would I want to be in a relationship right now? I am very young and don't see the point of it. The only thing that comes from it is certain hurt. My sister is one of those girls who is never single. She hasn't been for about 7 years (WOW). And now that she just got out of one, I'm sure she is going to find another guy in about a week. Why? I have had some good times with the girls I have dated over the past few years, but none compare to the times I've had while single (that I can recall, and not including sex). So is that really the best part of a relationship? Sex? Is that what it REALLY comes down to? My sister told me she's been hurt by her recent ex so many times she can't even count on two hands. I really don't think a relationship is worth that. Even though she told me she was stupid for going back, but her response was to me asking why was simply: "love is blind." And I don't really get that. I get what it means, but I wouldn't stick around with a girl who messes with my head and feelings constantly.d So why has this mindset come upon me? Is it normal to think like this? Don't get me a wrong, I would love to have a good looking young lady in my life. But I don't think I could keep her around for more than a month or two. Am I protecting myself? Or do I just not see the point of being in a relationship? I probably should mention the longest relationship I've had was only 6 months. And before this moment, I would've killed to have a relationship with someone I cared for. But now, I don't think I could stand it. Why? Is it just me thinking like this?
boogieboy Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Your mindset comes from self protection because you dont know what youre doing to lose these women. After lurking around this boar for a few months, you should be able to pick up on the mistakes you made, and be pretty confident that you will keep a pretty new woman without making those mistakes again. Your sister saying "loveis blond" is BS, thats why you dont get it She just doesnt want to admit a few things. 1.) She keeps going back to avoid starting over and avoid the hurt of the breakup...then she dates new people right away to 2.) fill the void of her last bf - avoid a full amount of hurt.. 3.) to shove the breakup in his face Sex isnt the best part of the relationship. But the worst part is not admitting the mistakes you made. Avoiding a relationship isnt going to help you learn how to avoid the mistakes. You have to find out what you did wrong first.
Author aroll32 Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Your mindset comes from self protection because you dont know what youre doing to lose these women. After lurking around this boar for a few months, you should be able to pick up on the mistakes you made, and be pretty confident that you will keep a pretty new woman without making those mistakes again. Your sister saying "loveis blond" is BS, thats why you dont get it She just doesnt want to admit a few things. 1.) She keeps going back to avoid starting over and avoid the hurt of the breakup...then she dates new people right away to 2.) fill the void of her last bf - avoid a full amount of hurt.. 3.) to shove the breakup in his face Sex isnt the best part of the relationship. But the worst part is not admitting the mistakes you made. Avoiding a relationship isnt going to help you learn how to avoid the mistakes. You have to find out what you did wrong first. See this is the problem, I know what I have done wrong and have learned from it (especially my last relationship). I am extremely confident on what I have to do to keep a girl, I just don't want to. And as for my sister, yeah, I can agree with that. But she seems to have really loved this last guy. Even though he put her through so much. My problem is that both my mom and sister have been put through too much for a human being to handle. Honestly, they have been through unspeakable things (especially my mother), and I just don't see a relationship being worth it. My mom got married to what she thought was the best guy in the entire world. I can't reveal what happened, because it is literally one of the worst things I have ever seen happen to any family. The good thing is that we have grown from it, and turned into who we are today. But back to my point, I don't get why I am feeling like I do. Like I said, I know what I did wrong, although it really seems to me like it shouldn't have been a problem. But I learned, and am very confident that I know what to do when it comes to a relationship. I just simply don't want it.
craw Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 See this is the problem, I know what I have done wrong and have learned from it (especially my last relationship). I am extremely confident on what I have to do to keep a girl, I just don't want to. There's nothing wrong with that! Society seems to create an illusion that we all must find "soul mates" and breed, keep the population rate rising! Esp since,we are constantly bombarded by images every day about marriage or children whatever. I firmly believe there is absolutely nothing strange or wrong about not wanting to be in a relationship with someone. Enjoy your independence n freedom!
boogieboy Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Based on your mistakes, not your mother or sisters, why do you think you dont want a relationship really?
Author aroll32 Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Like I said, I'm not sure why. Normally I would like to be in one. But again, I just don't want one. That's why I posted this thread, cause I don't know why.
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