Dulse Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I have been in a relationship with this wonderful guy for a year. I met this other sweet guy for like 3 months. I like him way too much. I didn't have intentions to like him but I guess we can't control who we become attracted to. I've tried to "forget" about the things we've been through together. I love the person I'm with, but not in love. If I was, I doubt I would be doing any of this to him. I feel soo guilty. My current boyfriend does not deserve any of this. I cant get this other guy off my mind. He has a daughter and is married. He claims he is currently separated from her and that she is dating other people. He has showed me text from his phone that she has written to him. She tells him shes gonna take everything from him and leave him with nothing. It's not like he has much anyway. I do a lot for him. He supposedly got upset at me because I was still with my boyfriend. I told him "U r married with a daughter and I don't say anything!" I understand I am nobody to say anything but neither is he! What's going on here?
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 What's going on? Sounds pretty clear that you are cheating on your boyfriend with a man who is cheating on his wife. It doesn't sound very good. Since you aren't in love with your boyfriend, why not break up with him?
TaraMaiden Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 What do I think you should do? One: Ditch the BF. It's unfair to string him along if you don't love him. Let him meet someone who will. Just like you should. Two: Ditch the cheating playing Married man. I don't care what his status is, as a MM he shouldn't be putting it about until he's legally free to do so. And if he's doing it to her, he'll do it to you. No qualms there.... Three: Grow up, be single for a while, love sensibly, live responsibly. Is it really that hard? NEXT - !!
Woman In Blue Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 He has showed me text from his phone that she has written to him. She tells him shes gonna take everything from him and leave him with nothing. Oh please. THAT'S his "proof" that he's separated? That's hardly proof of ANYTHING. He could have had his buddy send those texts to his phone just so he could "prove" to you he's separated. His little text message scam is pedestrian at best. Never forget - married men looking to get laid will stoop to lows you haven't even DREAMED about yet. Been there, done that. You know what? If you don't love your current boyfriend, then be honest with him so he can find someone to truly love and have that love returned. But DON'T do it for your married "boyfriend." The chances are extremely high he's LYING to you about being separated.
Spectre Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I have been in a relationship with this wonderful guy for a year. I met this other sweet guy for like 3 months. I like him way too much. I didn't have intentions to like him but I guess we can't control who we become attracted to. What were you doing in the first place hanging around with this other dude for enough time for you to develop feelings for him? Girls in happy wonderful relationships don't begin hanging out with dudes alone. I cant get this other guy off my mind. He has a daughter and is married. He claims he is currently separated from her and that she is dating other people. He has showed me text from his phone that she has written to him. She tells him shes gonna take everything from him and leave him with nothing. It's not like he has much anyway. I do a lot for him. He supposedly got upset at me because I was still with my boyfriend. I told him "U r married with a daughter and I don't say anything!" I understand I am nobody to say anything but neither is he! What's going on here? What's going on here is that you are basically cheating on your boyfriend and at the same time so naive as to think this married guy is not going to do the same thing to do as you are doing to your bf. My advice, first stop talking to this married guy. Unless you have no self respect or are just looking for a f-buddy, then you have no reason to pursue anything with this man. Second, break up with your bf. He deserves a lot better than you and trust me you are doing him the biggest favor of his life by getting the hell out of his life.
AAlike Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I love the person I'm with, but not in love. This statement has always struck me as hilarious/ridiculous. If I was, I doubt I would be doing any of this to him. As has this justification. He supposedly got upset at me because I was still with my boyfriend. So not only are you cheating on someone that you allegedly "love but aren't in love with", you're being manipulated by someone that wants to dismantle your life without upending his own. My suggestion is you cut ties with both of them and do a little soul-searching, because right now, I don't think that you even have a grasp of what love is.
Bryanp Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 How would you feel if your boyfriend was doing to you what you have been doing to him behind your back and putting your health at risk for STD's? Your actions indicate that you have very little respect for your boyfriend. The very least he deserves is for you is to be honest with him and allow him to decide if he wishes to continue his relationship with you. In addition, you cheated with his good friend so this is a double betrayal. He should know also what a back stabber his friend is also. You need to tell him the truth.
reservoirdog1 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I don't know what you should do with regard to the married/divorced/whatever guy. But I do know that you should break up with your boyfriend, NOW. He doesn't deserve to have his life impacted by your cheating. You're not in love with him anyway. Let him go, then figure your life out.
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