kombucha22 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 (edited) So, my ex and I broke up day after christmas. It's been now 2.5 months now. While we were in a relationship he cheated on me and he was always emailing other girls to hang out. I found this all out through his email. He basically treated me like sh*t behind my back and I gave him a ton of chances. Than I finally got to the point where I didn't want to be in a relationship with NO trust. He and I tried to be friends but it wasn't working with me so I told him not to text me anymore because I still have feelings for him and that I don't want those feelings(this was on thurs 3/11). He said "whatever you want" and I didn't hear from him until today 3/14. He texted me saying "why are you mean to me." I said "how am I being mean?" he said "we don't talk anymore." Mind you that it's only been 3 days. So I said "you could have texted me over the weekend and the fact that were not together anymore what's the point?" his answer to this was "I was in AC for a convention." I said "what does that have to do with not talking to me?" He didn't answer back. So I called him twice- no answer. I than get a text back saying "playing ping pong" I was furious that he texted me what he did than couldn't pick up the phone. I text him back "youre gay" and that was it. I turned off my phone b/c i wanted to really blow up on him. What does everyone else think of this? I need outsiders perspective as to what he wants? I tell him to STOP texting me all the time but he always goes back to texting me after a few days but only to ignore me again?! grrr....by the way i'm 26 he is 27. so immature. Oh and he owes me mtn biking shoes I ordered from his friend and I gave my ex the money. $75. I'm scared now that he won't give them to me or pay me the $$ back if he's going to be a jerk. I told him I will come get my money or he figures out where my shoes are. Do I have every right to get my $ from him if he decides to ignore me? He works at his brothers shop so I could go there and get it but I don't want to seem like a psycho? Edited March 15, 2010 by kombucha22
onetoughkitty Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I say just let all of it go. It's not worth it. You will feel sooooo much better just ignoring him altogether. He's playing games.
monkeymaid Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 i left a whole mtn bike. ...valued around 1300 bux. ...my surfboard and wetsuit, a laptop, and countlees articles of clothing. ...200+cds pots and pans and a fw more little things. not to mention my heart. ...let that s-h.i-t go!! its not worth it!!
sailo Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Okay look - the monetary value of the shoes is 75 dollars. It's nothing sentimental because you don't even own it yet, its just another excuse for you to hang onto this relationship. Ask yourself whether you WANT to be in a relationship with the guy. If you don't - it simple. You don't need to "tell" him that you don't want him to contact you. Communication is two-ways. Just ignore him and sooner or later he'll understand. If he calls, ignore it. If he texts, ignore it. If he says he's got your shoes, ignore it. You can BUY NEW SHOES!
twinklecat Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I have to agree with others here, just leave it all behind, including the shoes. I left countless things behind, I'm out of pocket but I'm much happier. I realised that I didn't want him in my life, moving on and not prolonging my pain was more important than money. At 3 months NC now, best thing I ever did.
CarrieT Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 And the next time he sends you a text, DO NOT RESPOND. No Contact is a two-way street and every time you respond to something he sends you, you are leaving the lines of communication open. Only you can stop that...
Author kombucha22 Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Ok thanks all for the advice. So I will let the shoe thing go. Just makes me angry. I won't talk to him anymore. I did send him a text earlier today b4 I read everyones thread not to contact him. I just said "did you email your friend" which was pertaining to my shoes ha. and no answer. So he's obviously angry with me as I am with him which makes it a no win situation. So, I will take everyones advice and forget him! thank you. your all right i'm sure i will be happier about it in the end. But also, he should feel like jerk for taking my money....
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