Simone84 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I broke up with my boyfriend in January because of long-distance/communication issues, we both left it angry with one another and telling each other to not contact anymore (though i said it first, officially making me the 'dumper'). After 4 weeks of no-contact he sent a long text apologising for anything he might have said/done that was over the top, not liking that it ended badly, that he wished it worked and that loves me a lot but that he'd leave me alone. I replied and basically mirrored everything he said. He instantly replied saying yeah the distance killed it, but he really had wanted it to work, that he'd miss what we had forever and how he thinks about rather being back home with me all the time, he also briefly mentioned he wasn't making a lot of money interstate (the reason he moved in the first place). but mostly his point was how he'd wished things were different and that it could've worked. A few days later (my birthday) i let him know i'd wished we could have spent my birthday together, to which he said "that would have been good, i know it doesnt mean much anymore but i still wanna say happy birthday"..... when i said "thanks it means a lot" he said he hoped i was having a good night and called me "babe" (which he only called me when we were together). he also went on to ask if i was partying or having a quiet one, to which i just said "quiet one", and he then said i'd probably make it up on the weekend and he'd leave me alone now though he was glad he got to say happy birthday to me at least. ...Is this guy trying to get me back??? (were together for 9 months) ...If i DID want him back - who makes the next move and what to do??? Please help it's driving me insane and i am clueless as to what to do now, or whether i should wait for him to do something...
mella Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I think it sounds like he cares about you, but I don't see any indication that he wants to get back into the relationship.
Author Simone84 Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Thanks for your reply - i do see what you mean, but i guess what's bugging me is that he's had a previous pattern of wanting to get back together when we've broken up twice before...
mella Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 He said the distance killed it, and the distance is still there. Nothing has changed since the relationship ended, and trying to resurrect it will only have you in the same predicament months down the line. The failure would repeat. Why do that to yourself?
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