tnttim Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Open communication with (ex)spouse is paramount Listening is the strongest tool in a relationship Acceptance is the key to moving on Knowledge is power Agree with someone else's negativity In a fight, you get angry, you lose Women want what other women want Always chase spouse like you would if you were single Keep the past where it belongs Do something different everyday till you die Accept people for who they are, not what they appear to be My kids health and well being is truly greater than mine You measure family based on the storms they have weathered In the roughest of times you find your truest friends There is no time like the present to drink these draining seconds Learn to understand the opposite sex, understand it's impossible Change is never comfortable, but is necessary If all else fails try something different Gunny is the man
nobmagnet Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 "But trust me on the sunscreen" and believe in you!!!!!!!!!!!;);) sleep helps too
Doing it Since '78 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear Everything will be revealed in time, most importantly don't try and uncover everything all at once, when your ready it will be exposed Don't ask the question if you won't beleive the answer What you do know WILL hurt you, so be careful how much you digest, unless you are strong enough to handle it, and only you know when that is a mans mouth will lie,a womans mouth will lie, but actions tell the truth Respect yourself, even when others don't 95% of what really happened will always remain a mystery to you If a person is willing to throw it all away for another, was anything ever really there?
spriggig Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 People ALWAYS change. Constantly. Lo, that we could pick a state and hold it forever--bliss. People who say "people never change" are excusing themselves from responsibility and the conversation. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it. Complacency will kill a marriage as dead as cheating. Dig into the details ONCE then let it be. Accept as a matter of faith that in a two person relationship each is exactly half responsible for the entirety. No victims, no villains. Forgive yourself, forgive them and move forward. Don't lie to save their feelings, they always find out and it hurts them twice as bad. Tell the truth with love and a kind heart instead.
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 (edited) I've learned that life is like a scooter car: not much happens unless you do some peddling. I've learned that most of the things I worried about never happened. I've learned that if someone says something unkind or untrue about me? I must live so that no one will believe it. I've learned that every great achievement was once considered impossible. I've learned that homemade Toll House cookies are best eaten while still warm. I've learned that you can get by on charm for about the first fifteen minutes, but after that you better know something. I've learned that couples without children know just how you should raise yours. I've learned that the great challenge of life is to decide what' important and to disregard the rest. I've learned that you shouldn't compare your to the best of others, but to the best that you can do. I've learned that the more creative your are, the more things that you notice. I've learned that you should never be to busy to say please of thank you. I've learned that you can't be a hero without taking chances. I've learned that it doesn't cost anything to be nice. I've learned that whenever I go fishing the guy who runs the bait shop always says, "Gee! You should have been here yesterday." I've learned that life challenges us with the fact that everything can be done better. I've learned it doesn't do any good to buy expensive tools if you can't find them! I've learned that a strong code of ethics is as reliable as a compass. I've learned that if you like garlic salt and Tabasco Sauce you can make almost anything taste good. I've learned its hard to argue with someone when they're right. I've learned that a person is as good as his or her word. I've learned that at least once in his life, a man makes a fool of himself over a woman. I've learned that trust is the single most important factor in both personal and professional relationship. And that's once its lost its twice as hard to get it back. I've learned that marrying for money is the hardest way of getting it. I've learned that my gas tank is always empty when I'm running late for a important meeting or appointment. Or I can't find my damnned car keys! I've learned that nothing of value comes without effort. I've learned that when you think your fooling everybody else, your only fooling yourself. I've learned that after the age of 50, unless you've laid a good foundation in your youth and maintain it? You get the 'furniture disease? That's when your chest falls into your drawers! I've learned that you shouldn't have a $1000 meeting to solve a $100 problem. (Divorce lawyers for example!) I've learned that its better to be married to someone with a good nature than a good physique. I've learned that anticipation is often better than the real thing. I've learned that enthusiasm is caught, not taught. I've learned that untold treasures are found in the imagination of a child. I've learned that generous people seldom have emotional or mental problems. I've learned that in every face to face encounter, regardless of how brief, we leave something of us behind. I've learned that its not what happens to people that's important. Its what they do about it. (Learned this one from a ten year old! ) I've learned that the ache of unfulfilled dreams is the worse pain of all. I've learned that you can do something in an instant that will cause you grief for the rest of your life. I've learned that who we marry is potentionally the single greatest source of joy or sorrow in our lives. I've learned that even when in pain? That I don't have to be a pain. I've learned that people that wear Mickey Mouse watches? Are usually creative and fun to be with. I've learned the regardless of color or age? We all need about the same amount of love. I've learned that a person's degree of self-confidence greatly determines his or her success in life. I've learned that I should never praise my mother's cooking while I'm eating something fixed by my wife. I've learned that you should never turn down a woman for sex if she initiates it. (I got caught in one of those "Sex droughts" for about six to nine months one time for having done so! ) I've learned that the quickest way to meet people is to pick up the wrong golf ball on the golf course! I've learned that if you pursue happiness? It will elude you. But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people and doing the very best you can? Happiness will find you. I've learned that most people are honest. I've learned that if you care? It shows. I've learned that kindness is more important than perfection. I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them terrible after they die. I've learned once your parents have passed away? Your pretty much on your own and alone in the World. I've learned that education, experience and memories are three things no one can ever take away from you. I've learned that its taken me a long, long time to become the person that I want and need to be. I've learned that self pity is a waste of time. I've learned that procrastination is like masturbation? Its only a matter of time before you realize your just screwing yourself! I've learned that the best way to lose a friend? Is to loan him or her money. I'll post more later. Edited March 15, 2010 by Gunny376
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 People ALWAYS change. Constantly. Lo, that we could pick a state and hold it forever--bliss. People who say "people never change" are excusing themselves from responsibility and the conversation. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it. Complacency will kill a marriage as dead as cheating. Dig into the details ONCE then let it be. Accept as a matter of faith that in a two person relationship each is exactly half responsible for the entirety. No victims, no villains. Forgive yourself, forgive them and move forward. Don't lie to save their feelings, they always find out and it hurts them twice as bad. Tell the truth with love and a kind heart instead. Your getting there, "Learn Damit! Learn!!"
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Gunny is the man Thanks for the compliment! But I generally prefer to hear that comment in the bedroom from a HB10 (Hot Babe X's 10) blonde, brunette, redheaded woman after having "James Bond" type sex all night long at the break of dawn!
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I learned that once I gave up drinking, smoking, gambling and women? I didn't have any reason to work? Unfortunately I didn't have much reason for living either?
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I've learned that when your up to you neck in alligators, snakes, and Indians shooting poison tip arrows and blow gun darts at you? You tend to forget that your initial objective was to drain the damn swamp!
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I've learned that the word "If" is one of the most worthless words in the whole entire English language. The true definition of the word "If" is ~ "If grasshoppers had and could use Colt .45 pistols? Crows wouldn't mess with them and have them for breakfast! But they don't and so Crows do!"
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I've learned that unless you can come to me with a problem (not freaking issue ~ a problem!) and unless you can't suggest at least one but preferably three different alternatives solutions/answers? Your just bitchin' to be bitchin' !
sumdude Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I learned that once I gave up drinking, smoking, gambling and women? I didn't have any reason to work? Unfortunately I didn't have much reason for living either? Good one Gunny! I've learned that marriage is like a motorcycle. It only has two tires and if one of them blows the whole thing becomes useless.
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Open communication with (ex)spouse is paramount Listening is the strongest tool in a relationship Acceptance is the key to moving on Knowledge is power Agree with someone else's negativity In a fight, you get angry, you lose Women want what other women want Always chase spouse like you would if you were single Keep the past where it belongs Do something different everyday till you die Accept people for who they are, not what they appear to be My kids health and well being is truly greater than mine You measure family based on the storms they have weathered In the roughest of times you find your truest friends There is no time like the present to drink these draining seconds Learn to understand the opposite sex, understand it's impossible Change is never comfortable, but is necessary If all else fails try something different Most of the time when one goes through a separation/divorce? Most especially when it comes to a woman leaving a man? All she accomplishes is breaking his heart, tearing him down, and making him change into a newer, stronger 2.0v of his former self, to the point that the next lucky girl that comes along and snaggs him says, "Where have you been all of my life!" Were it me? I'd be kinda ~ sorta PO that I invested all that time,effort, and energy into creating the perfect man/husband/spouse for some other woman.
TaraMaiden Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 "Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth." While you're busy going through the trash for all this wonderful nostalgia, and hoping to be able to recycle it for a better future, you're forgetting one vital, absolutely essential thing: You should be living in the Present. The Past no longer exists, the Future is not guaranteed. But Now, is all you've got. Enjoy it while it lasts.
Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Good one Gunny! I've learned that marriage is like a motorcycle. It only has two tires and if one of them blows the whole thing becomes useless. Trust me! If your riding a motorcycle at 60 mph and a tire blows? It rendering the bike useless is the absolute least of your worries. I can guaran-damn-tee you'll have other things on your mind at the moment. That my Friend is the true analogy between riding a motorcycle/marriage/seperation and divorce!
Author tnttim Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Good one Gunny! I've learned that marriage is like a motorcycle. It only has two tires and if one of them blows the whole thing becomes useless. I've learned even though the tire is blown, and the bike is useless, I still found my way home
Gunny376 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Your a "Yea But" kind of guy aren't ya'! :laugh:
Author tnttim Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Your a "Yea But" kind of guy aren't ya'! :laugh: I have been known to say "Yea No" to a question too
onedayatatyme Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 What does "agree with her negativity" mean. If that means what I think it does, it's only gotten me in trouble.
Author tnttim Posted March 19, 2010 Author Posted March 19, 2010 What does "agree with her negativity" mean. If that means what I think it does, it's only gotten me in trouble. It means if you are arguing you agree with whatever she says. No matter how off the wall or obviousely false she says is. I was contfronted with the classic, "What am I fat?" Panic immediately set in, fcking Homer Macdonald never said she would say this. I manned up and said "Yea i agree you think your fat." she said "What do you think." I said "Yes your fat." She got even more pissed and went into her room. But low and behold she came out later and said she was sorry. She said she knew she pressured me into saying that and she knew how I really felt. If I said no, who knows how long the argument would have lasted or how much it would have escalated.
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