Superstar69 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Hey guys and gals! Hope you are all well... my ex g/f broke up with me 1 year ago and said she was confused and broke off our 3 year relationship. She had planned kids names/we were looking at houses and she was desperate for me to pop the question. I find out through a mutual friend she is on dating websites ... it later transpires the reason she wanted to break up was she started being attracted to a guy at work and that confused her! Fast forward 6 months after the and she tells me she loves me and misses me. She mentions getting back together, I don't take her up on her flakey offer and to be honest give her one hell of a verbal bashing! I apologise for saying horrible things to her and tell her i respect her decision but she can't say things like I love you when she cleary doesn't know what she wants... She still messaged back to say she accepted my apology but wanted a time out. I was happy with that as I wanted to focus on me and have some well needed fun In Feb I recieve messages saying lets be friends, I thought it's best not to hold grudges and i'm having a good time and in a good place, so i agree. since then though i've been messaged every 2-3 days, i've been told to pop over for dinner/i just remembered you so i thought i'd say Hi type texts. I don't quite understand why she is doing this though? is it through guilt on her part? validation through me? I don't get her motives. I try and be neutral and respond as and when i see fit. Any comments as to what you guys think her agenda maybe would be mightly helpful. thanks in advance for reading and responding!
Confusedguy81 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 She probably hit the dating scene and ran into a bunch of dirt bags. Now I think she is trying to slowly lure you back with this guise of "friendship". IMO, I would be careful because it sounds like she has no idea what she wants.
Author Superstar69 Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 Confusedguy81 I couldn't agree more, she has no idea what she wants, I don't know if she wants to get back together or not! it seems to convenient to invite me over for cooked meals message me all the time ... I don't take her up on the offers! but this makes her message more!
LovelyDaze Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 She probably hit the dating scene and ran into a bunch of dirt bags. Now I think she is trying to slowly lure you back with this guise of "friendship". IMO, I would be careful because it sounds like she has no idea what she wants. I agree. Exes are classic at coming back to their former GFs/BFs when they see the grass isn't as green as they thought. Friendship is her code of saying,"Please, be my backup plan in case I don't find someone else." Bad place to be.
Author Superstar69 Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 I agree. Exes are classic at coming back to their former GFs/BFs when they see the grass isn't as green as they thought. Friendship is her code of saying,"Please, be my backup plan in case I don't find someone else." Bad place to be. The crazy thing is when she asked to get back together I said hell no for those reasons. I knew I was better than all the games and you're right I'm not up for being a back up. But this time she's making a geniune effort I feel and it's getting harder to not flirt back etc ... I've forgiven her and moved on. It's so weird maybe I'm just Reading too much into and she just wants to be friends. Part of me would like to see her again. But I know I'm being ruled by my emotions. I still do care and wish her well. It's just hard to repel someone that u care for even tho we barely spoke fr 1 year I want her to be happy.
Confusedguy81 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 The crazy thing is when she asked to get back together I said hell no for those reasons. I knew I was better than all the games and you're right I'm not up for being a back up. But this time she's making a geniune effort I feel and it's getting harder to not flirt back etc ... I've forgiven her and moved on. It's so weird maybe I'm just Reading too much into and she just wants to be friends. Part of me would like to see her again. But I know I'm being ruled by my emotions. I still do care and wish her well. It's just hard to repel someone that u care for even tho we barely spoke fr 1 year I want her to be happy. I understand you completely and I wish you luck if you do get back together. I would just worry about her doing the same ole song and dance and dropping you again.
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