bentnotbroken Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I say let it go, she will get more than she bargained for in the long run. She will dig her own hole to sink in.
Samantha0905 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I say let it go, she will get more than she bargained for in the long run. She will dig her own hole to sink in. Or she might just end up being a nice person who ends up happy as may the OP.
bentnotbroken Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Or she might just end up being a nice person who ends up happy as may the OP. Since you and I know we both believe in two different things, we should just leave it alone. I believe she will reap what she has sown, you don' t. And I never said she wouldn't be a good person. But good people don't tend to continue a state of screwing other over.
JustJoe Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I would leave it alone, but if you want to cause her and the OM problems, you probably can. A great many companys have rules about affairs taking place on company paid trips. For the most part , these are about married men taking GF'S on company trips with them. I read last fall about a stewardess who was fired by an airlines for having a BF in another city from her husband. So if you are interested, and have proof, check with her HR dept. and see what the rules of her co. are.
califnan Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Or she might just end up being a nice person who ends up happy as may the OP. -------------------- Should we start a thread on the definition of a "nice person".. I could write a book ..
Author stillfallin Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Yeah it would be hard for me to call her a nice person right now. How am I trying to be her father for christs sake. I mean she got everything she wanted I guess. No marriage, a new lover, no worries at work, no loss of money or property, I left town within 3 weeks, and Im not calling or bothering her in any way. I lost everything, she didnt so wanting a little payback is understandable I think.
califnan Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Yeah it would be hard for me to call her a nice person right now. How am I trying to be her father for christs sake. I mean she got everything she wanted I guess. No marriage, a new lover, no worries at work, no loss of money or property, I left town within 3 weeks, and Im not calling or bothering her in any way. I lost everything, she didnt so wanting a little payback is understandable I think. --------------------- My husband left me for the OW ... Left the livingroom a torn up construction zone - as he was in the process of renovating, paneling - before he left.. I called him on Easter to tell him of my frustration of having my parents to dinner under the circumstances of the torn up house. .. The OW called me back and said that I wasn't a "nice person" ha ... Eventually they married. After he contacted leukemia, she had him write our sons out of his will (denying them of the recent closure of their grandfather's estate) .. The OW's job status remained high paying and secure. After my exhusband's death, she had him cremated.. And now Aliede is onto a fourth husband - this one much wealthier ..
Church Bells Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I lost everything, she didnt so wanting a little payback is understandable I think. Don't make this decision harder than it needs to be. Some BH's are more about "not making waves", and some want their "pound of flesh". I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here ... WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO???
califnan Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 The Best we can Do ... is to make Best of our own lives ..
NoIDidn't Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 --------------------- My husband left me for the OW ... Left the livingroom a torn up construction zone - as he was in the process of renovating, paneling - before he left.. I called him on Easter to tell him of my frustration of having my parents to dinner under the circumstances of the torn up house. .. The OW called me back and said that I wasn't a "nice person" ha ... Eventually they married. After he contacted leukemia, she had him write our sons out of his will (denying them of the recent closure of their grandfather's estate) .. The OW's job status remained high paying and secure. After my exhusband's death, she had him cremated.. And now Aliede is onto a fourth husband - this one much wealthier .. Wow. What a job this one did on your family! This is one of the main reasons I don't like remarriage. The new spouse may very well have motives other than love and family when they enter the picture. And far too often, they actually hate not being "first". Ugh. My dad is considering a fourth marriage. This really hits close to home. I've already been disinherited once. I don't think I can handle it again. ----------------- Sorry for the threadjack.
Samantha0905 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 --------------------- My husband left me for the OW ... Left the livingroom a torn up construction zone - as he was in the process of renovating, paneling - before he left.. I called him on Easter to tell him of my frustration of having my parents to dinner under the circumstances of the torn up house. .. The OW called me back and said that I wasn't a "nice person" ha ... Eventually they married. After he contacted leukemia, she had him write our sons out of his will (denying them of the recent closure of their grandfather's estate) .. The OW's job status remained high paying and secure. After my exhusband's death, she had him cremated.. And now Aliede is onto a fourth husband - this one much wealthier .. That's pretty bad. I'm sorry that happened. The will stuff is appalling. He wrote his own sons out? My BIL ended up moving in with the marriage counselor who counseled he and his wife to separate. Now, the dummy has added the live-in to his will, along with her children and he has four boys of his own. He says he doesn't want to marry her, but now feels obligated and is going to do so since she has quit her job and relies on him to keep her. Happening stuff. Sorry for TJ.
Samantha0905 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Yeah it would be hard for me to call her a nice person right now. How am I trying to be her father for christs sake. I mean she got everything she wanted I guess. No marriage, a new lover, no worries at work, no loss of money or property, I left town within 3 weeks, and Im not calling or bothering her in any way. I lost everything, she didnt so wanting a little payback is understandable I think. It is understandable. I just think it's best not to and since you were asking for opinions... If you do, it is what it is. I just don't know how it will help you any, but perhaps it will make you feel better. I don't think it would me.
califnan Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Wow. What a job this one did on your family! This is one of the main reasons I don't like remarriage. The new spouse may very well have motives other than love and family when they enter the picture. And far too often, they actually hate not being "first". Ugh. My dad is considering a fourth marriage. This really hits close to home. I've already been disinherited once. I don't think I can handle it again. ----------------- I am so sorry for your being disinherited. It should not happen at all .. Women are the most common denominators with this terrible occurance.. It is amazing to me how this happens. How can any man be so Desparate as to rule out their own offspring with these operators .. Women these days have replaced the old fashioned "dowry" with that of being opportunistic and marrying to be taken care of .. and these nutty men are going for it .. Tell your father what I have said so ... If I were to ever remarry - what I have would be set aside for my sons - and I would Respect his family's Rights as well ..
threebyfate Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I am kinda new here and you may not have read my OP. Basically I found out in Jan that my W was having an affair with a co-worker. She got him the job in August and the affair happened in Dec while on a 8 day business trip to Alaska. They were the only ones on the trip. She partially planned the trip. The company regularly sends people out of town. I am considering telling the HR dept or CEO about what is happening. I have 2 days of screenshots of chats they had at work after I confronted her. I should be getting the divorce papers next week. We have nothing together in both our names. Should I say anything? Im curious what you guys think. If anyone has been in a similar situation and told the boss I would be curious what they think or what happened. I have no clue whether they have a policy against it or not but I doubt they would like it, especially since they regularly send people out of town.Wait until after your divorce is rubber-stamped, before you decide to take any action. The last thing you want, is for her to drag out the divorce or in some way, jobless, find a way to make you pay spousal support.
califnan Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 That's pretty bad. I'm sorry that happened. The will stuff is appalling. He wrote his own sons out? My BIL ended up moving in with the marriage counselor who counseled he and his wife to separate. Now, the dummy has added the live-in to his will, along with her children and he has four boys of his own. He says he doesn't want to marry her, but now feels obligated and is going to do so since she has quit her job and relies on him to keep her. Happening stuff. Sorry for TJ. --------------- I know Samantha, one of these days I definitely need to start a thread on the subject .. It is a terrible occurance.. Tell him that this should never happen and that his four boys should come first in his inheritance .. and should also be his first priority in life.. I believe that when we have children, we commit to always look out for them ... These later marriages should be tested in this manner, as well - a good way to find out if the marriage is really based on love. It is a common occurance that these later marriages are a demand on monies and real estate transfer .. In my husband's case, he actually took money from our community assets to put down on a house for her, before the divorce ..
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