onesweetpea Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Im driving myself crazy, I thought I could pretend to be happy and content, but this fake marriage is killing me. He keeps cheating and lying and cheating and lying, I moved back in w my parents miles away from him, we IM and talk on the phone, but its obvious there's nothing left of the marriage, just 3 beautiful little girls that I need to raise, without him. I guess my question is how do I go about this wihtout stirring things up, I cant afford lawyers now, especially not now that I dont work, and I dont want to get into an international custody battle. Is it wrong to just go on with my life and my kids, and shut him out of my heart? Without the legal stuff? Broken hearted
Gunny376 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Yes it is! The focus isn't on what he wants, his needs, his desires, his dreams of ~ nor that of yours! Its on those precious three little girls! Read "Little Women" The day you first gave birth you knew you life had changed. You knew that your life was no longer your own, but that of your children. In your heart of hearts you know that honesty is not a little thing ~ but important in the little things ~ and in all things! To thy own self be true. Don't worry about divorcing him, the legal crap. Just worry about you, getting back on your feet, getting a job, your own place, the DDX3, your own personal peace, happiness, contentment. Forget the clown, his dancing bears, and hussy's! BTW! Congraduatlions! You've just entered Adulthood, responsibilty, being a part of something greater than yourself, living your life for yourself, being a bigger part of than something than you were? Of being there for your children, not living your life for your children, nor through your children! Of not needing a man to complete you, your children, yourself! Now if I can just get a little self validation of self worth out of you! Being the Mother you are! I want to hear you give me an "OoooooRaaaahhh!" (Marine Corps War Cry) Which is a couple notes below a woman giving birth! You can do this! Keep posting! Guns
Butterflair Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 You don't want to stay in a fake marriage and be unhappy. Kids know more than you think and they will pick up on the negative energy and it will be worse for them in the long run. If you know it's over then do what you need to do to end it. Talk to your parents, ask for their help in finding legal council. If this will entail international custody then you definitely need legal advice even if it's just to know where you stand. Start taking your steps, one at a time, gather information and make a plan. Don't be defeated before you even start.
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