tigressA Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 The way I dress is pretty different from the rest of my social circle, since I often like to dress in more than jeans, a t-shirt and ballet flats or sneakers (I'm a college student). I go for classic basics and vintage/secondhand. I like to look put-together, feminine, etc. It's nice if guys notice, but I'm in no way disappointed if they don't. I do love to dress for the guy I'm dating. Whenever we have plans to go out, or if he's just coming over, I'm always conscious of the things he likes to see me in. Of course, I keep my own comfort and preferences in mind as well.
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 This is a spin off another thread, where a few posters said that obviously, if a woman dresses up or if a woman goes to a bar, she does so (solely) in the hopes of attracting male attention. I think you missed all the salient points in that thread if that's what you got out of it.
Author Kamille Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 I think you missed all the salient points in that thread if that's what you got out of it. No, this is a spin off thread, and has nothing to do with the salient points I and other people made in that other thread. Nice try though barky boy.
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Uhm, to answer your question, I don't think a whole lot of people believe that EVERY time a woman dresses up or goes to a bar she's out to impress men.
Author Kamille Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 so what are you going to wear? Great question! This is a party where I was going with bf and a bunch of my friends were there. I was feeling lazy so I went for one of my favorite go-to. A nice turquoise silk top with a pair of grey jeans. Classy and comfy. This used to be one of my favorite outfits but I've worn it so often that it no longer feels "original" or "creative". I didn't even put on make up. So really, I was in a very low-key mood. Now ask me what I wore to my job interview! I went out and spent the biggest amount of money on a shirt that I ever did. It's a really nice white cotton shirt with an original yet classic cut. I paired it up with a colorful necklace and black trousers. I wanted to look stylish yet professional. On that day my attention was obviously more on looking the professional part then looking sexy or pretty. Now that I have the job, I will have to go shopping for a lot more professional outfits!
stillafool Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 I workout and dress well because I like the way I look and feel when I do. It gives me energy to dress well and also people treat you better when you maintain a good appearance. But truly, when I look good I feel like I can conquer anything.
Author Kamille Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 I workout and dress well because I like the way I look and feel when I do. It gives me energy to dress well and also people treat you better when you maintain a good appearance. But truly, when I look good I feel like I can conquer anything. Totally. For me working out is linked to feeling energetic and focused at work happy and fun to be around. It's how I take care of myself. And dressing nicely is a part of me feeling good about myself. And I just realized, while answering tk's question, that I don't always dress to impress (women or men). Sometimes I dress just to feel comfortable.
Author Kamille Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 Uhm, to answer your question, I don't think a whole lot of people believe that EVERY time a woman dresses up or goes to a bar she's out to impress men. I'm glad to hear it.
Johnny M Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 This is a spin off another thread, where a few posters said that obviously, if a woman dresses up or if a woman goes to a bar, she does so (solely) in the hopes of attracting male attention. Women's responses in that thread are far more telling than the original post itself. Whenever a woman gets bent out of shape over something a guy says, there's usually a kernel of truth to the statement
Author Kamille Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Women's responses in that thread are far more telling than the original post itself. Whenever a woman gets bent out of shape over something a guy says, there's usually a kernel of truth to the statement I didn't see many women get bent out of shape in that other thread - more a lot of women rationally explaining that one would have to be extremely narcissistic to get upset over a non interaction with a stranger. It was some of the guys who absolutely wanted to maintain they could get back at women by ignoring them. But this thread is about the extent to which our choices are influenced by our desires to be attractive to the other sex. Care to contribute?
Crazy Magnet Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I can't really say what drives my choice in clothing. Usually it's along the lines of "Does this fit me? Ok, cool. Is it less than $20. Great. I'll buy it." I also don't have one style that I normally stick with which has left me with a big jumbled mess of stuff that sort of goes together. I'm really all over the map. Some days I'll end up bohemian chic, some days it's very classic, I have rocker gear with skull and stuff, and some days it's literally whatever is in the floor. I also can't say that the way my friends dress influence what I decide to wear. Whatever my style is, none of my friends dress anything like me. I tend to trend towards dressier whereas most of my closest friends trend toward decidedly casual. The only time I care about what the opposite sex thinks of my clothing is when I want to look sexy for my BF if we are headed out to a nice dinner or what not.
mrkleen Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I while back I went on this date with a guy I met online. We were talking about what we like to do and I told him how I really like to run and was training for a half marathon at the time... And he goes "you don't need to worry about working out, you're in great shape". I know he was trying to compliment me but I got so offended! I was like "hello! I actually enjoy working out!" I'll admit one of the perks of being active is looking better too, but mostly I do it because it makes me feel better! Talking about completely unnecessary OVERREACTION And you wonder why men dont know WTF they are supposed to say. He was trying to be nice and you jumped down his throat. Well played.
silic0ntoad Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I am a t-shirt and jeans guy. IDK. I don't dress up. I wear button ups and sh*t to work, but when I go out, I wear a tshirt and jeans. I don't bother looking flashy or dressing with class. I think my style is a rocker? I wear band tees and ripped jeans, or stonewashed jeans. Goes good with my tattoos. lolz
CarrieT Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 When people dress up nicely is because they have someone in mind they want to impress. I completely disagree. I haven't had a date in months and have no prospects of any whatsoever. Yet when I get dressed to go out -- often by myself -- it is just for me only. I am dressing right now to go out this afternoon and run errands and have lunch -- BY MYSELF -- and I will dress nicely, just because.
torranceshipman Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I buy clothes because I like them, I wear clothes because I like them, and I work out because I enjoy it and it keeps me in shape. Of course I enjoy the fact that some men like how I look - it is nice to feel attractive - but I'd wear the same clothes and do my hair, make up, etc, the same, regardless of whether no men liked it or not...
tkgirl Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Talking about completely unnecessary OVERREACTION And you wonder why men dont know WTF they are supposed to say. He was trying to be nice and you jumped down his throat. Well played. ok, first of all I did NOT jump down his throat... I actually kept quiet but thought to myself "wow this guy is clueless if he thinks the only reason women work out is to look good" And that "compliment" coupled with his comments on how well I fit in my jeans or how the ribbed turtleneck I was wearing really showed off my curves... yeah, I was creeped out by the end of the date... so sue me! Admittedly, had he been more hot himself it probably would not have bothered me as much.. hey, just speaking the truth here!
mrkleen Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Admittedly, had he been more hot himself it probably would not have bothered me as much.. hey, just speaking the truth here! I was actually going to compliment you on your post until this last line. So, it is OK to be a CREEP if you are hot enough? Wow.
spookie Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 i exercise to feel good, go to bars to drink, and dress up cause people treat you better when you look good
aystro Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 As stupid as it may sound, but when I work out I like to look in the mirror and see my self toned. It makes me feel more cool,powerful and well even more male I guess. There is an uncertainty among all male and women actually, regarding their sexual defining features. Women are so afraid of having 'inadequate' breasts while mens fear is that they aren't well endowed. I knew a girl from college who had a really big chest for her body size. And the way she behaved, really showed that she 'made it'. For her it meant that no guy would ever turn her down and that the most important element of attraction she already completed. Ironically she was single, and her face wasn't particularly nice to look at. Finally if I would have to imagine a world without women, I don't think I would think of my body that much. Regarding clothes, I don't feel the necessity to dress differently. I just like the way I dress and I wouldn't change that if the female society would have something against it.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I dress in a wide range of styles. Here's a rough breakdown: passable and comfortable: jeans and t-shirt kind of outfit, maybe even yoga pants and a shirt, no makeup / for a grocery run or quick errand in the middle of the day / very low consideration of how I look to anyone nice casual: dress, cute top and skirt or jeans, that kind of thing, minimal makeup / for lunch dates with friends, long-time clients I'm more casual with, etc. / moderate consideration of how I look to others girly/dolled up: dresses or skirts, boots, jewelry, the works, little more makeup / for dates, dancing, and the like / maximum consideration of how I look to others My motivation for working out is staying in shape and feeling good. Looking good is a nice benefit. I never go to a bar/club hoping to hook up. I go out to dance and have a good time with my friends, maybe flirt a little at most. I have never met a serious prospect at a bar or club.
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