Confused5433 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 I have this AMAZING guy I went out with and he is really into me. He told me how attracted he is to me and I reciprocated the same feeling. I'm excited to find this new feeling again..but...the old me comes back and ruins this moment. I actually got teary eyed last night after he said all those incredibly romantic things to me, because I started to miss my ex and remembered how we use to love each other so much and write love letters to each other. What is the matter??? I'm self destructing any possibility for a new romance, why? I don't know what is going on with me, but I wonder if I will ever move on and not have to compare my ex with any guy. Has anyone actually experienced this and gotten over comparing the ex with the new person. I was crazy in love with my ex and it's been like 3yrs now, but I still seem to get the same feelings back. I don't want that anymore, but can't help how I feel. He is constantly in my mind, it's like time hasn't erased him from my heart, but made his memory even more alive and present. What to do??!!!
Lakeside_runner Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Um, I'm actually sorry for the situation... It seems like this new guy is somebody whom you really like and vice versa. He's not going to be like your ex - he's somebody different. For your sake and for the sake of this guy - STOP THINKING ABOUT YOUR EX! It's in the past - move on and enjoy what you have with this guy! 3 year is a long time to let it go...
xpaperxcutx Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Has it been three years since you broke up or three years since you last dated? I don't think it's so much as you miss your ex as this new guy reminds you of what it feels like to be in a relationship or to have someone to love. I think what you need to do is take things slow with this guy and not rush into anything. While his " confession" towards you is romantic, you and him both needs to stay grounded. We all know how emotions can drive us to do crazy things.
Author Confused5433 Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 xpaper, we are taking it very slow. Last time I saw him was 3 yrs ago, but we keep seeing each other after a yr of our breakup. Then I knew it had to end, so I went NC with him and that was then. I want to start something new is just that the memory of him keeps hunting me, and I feel like I still love him. It's bizarre
mrt336 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Basically, you're not over him. How do you get over him? Build new memories with this new guy. Try to do things you didn't do with your ex, I understand that could be difficult if you were together a long time, but try to think of something funny or weird that you'd never really do and do it with the new guy. You need new memories and experiences
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