ashleigh422 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I need to vent... Okay... so there's always been this one man who I thought.. if i would have been older back then (high school.. 8 years ago) maybe things would have been different... I found out in December that he ran into a friend of mine and was askin about me and gave her his number to give to me.. she never did... (she told me she gave him my number.. which she really didn't.. biatch and she isnt a friend anymore.. ) Monday i got onto a socialnetwork cite and BAM..there he is.. friending me..OMG I think to myself.. is this really happening.. eight years later??? So we talk, text, chat... last night he tells me to swing by because I was out.. at first i decided no.. and a drink later I changed my mind and went to his house. So.. he is great.. more than everything I thought he would be... EXCEPT.. he talked pretty much the entire time about all the hell he went through the past 8 years with his ex... whos a trainwreck and the mother of his child.. blah blah.. I mean, I listened becuase I've always considdered him a friend... but ISNT IT A KNOWN THING THAT YOU ARENT SUPPOSED TO DO THAT!! So we kisseed a little.. of which I initiated... (Lets say he was resistant.. I'm not into games and I am a mature woman and if I want to kiss a man... I will).. he wanted to take it into the other room and I didn't becuase I don't want it to turn into fwb... Either way.. my question is.. if he talked about his ex the whole time.. and she even called while I was there.. does that mean he still has feelings for her and is emotionally unavailable? Should I just take his situation carefully and be there only as a friend for now and not push anything else.... or should I just cut contact now becuase he isn't in the same place I am.. PLEASE HELP!!
Rearden Metal Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Slow it downnnnnn....!!! Yeah, he's bent about her still. You gotta let him work that out. Don't sleep with him, don't be super always available. Just keep up LC and be sweet to him. If he's still always talking about the ex, move the subject elsewhere or cut the convo short. You don't want to be the friendzone girl, so don't be!
jennyc33 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 yeah, he sounds like he's got other things on his mind right now. i'd say let it lie. sounds like for a while at least, that other woman is a big part of his life, even if it's not romantic at this point.
Author ashleigh422 Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 I know she is, she's an alchoholic and he has to deal with that all the time becuase he keeps his son ALOT and when he doens't have him he's worryin about what she is doing with his son.. They have been separated for over a year...
blueberries Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 yeah i agree with the rest, don't rush, slow down. he sounds like he's still preoccupied with his ex, even though they've been separated for a while. and since they have been separated for a while, i don't think he should be talking so much about her if he didn't have her in his mind.
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