jennyc33 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Do guys still go on their online dating profiles even if they really like a certain girl? Does it "mean" anything? Or is it just something you do? So I've been dating this guy for a month. He has been very into me until this week. He's said a lot of things to me early on like for instance - what's happening between us isn't normal, and he never feels like this. I didn't fully reciprocate those statements, cause I have learned to hold back a little at the beginning & not trust that everything is going to stay the same as the relationship progresses. I was trying not to fall too fast. Oh, and he also said that sex too early ruins a relationship & you have to wait to develop the conversation before that. So we haven't had sex. This week he pulled back a lot, which I contributed to his grandpa dying. He only initiated contact with me one time this week, and I initiated a few other days although he did respond. Yesterday we didn't talk at all, but it was the viewing, etc & he was with his parents so I didn't really worry about it. However, today I logged into match, thinking if he is pulling back, let me at least respond to a couple of these people who have emailed me. I hadn't been on in about 3 weeks. And that's when I saw he's been active in 24 hours! At first I felt a little hurt, but then realized that we're not exclusive so it's ok. And it might not be that he's searching for someone else cause his feelings have changed, but he could be just responding to emails, or just looking out of boredom (right???) But then I realized that he hasn't spoken to me in almost 2 days, but he went on match within the last day! So now I feel like his priority is obviously not with me, and I wonder why he said those things & acted so interested in me? Could it change so fast? But I also know that I tend to jump to conclusions that men are douches, so am I just being too harsh? I sent a text this morning with my condolences, since today is the funeral, but that's the last contact I'll make. I know it's just a waiting game now. I just hate being an idiot. I wonder if guys ever do this type of thing (pull back & be active on match), and are still interested in the girl? Or is it the kiss of death?
justsomeoneelse Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Usually guys will keep checking online even if they are really interested in some particular girl. Just keeping our options open. Once it gets serious, sure, we'll stop. Just the same as you, we don't like putting all our eggs in one basket.
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