bayouboi Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Spinning off of BobSacamento's thread about what women look for on dating profiles, I wanted to invite everyone to a thread so we can all share and learn from each other (men & women). To make it more interesting, you can only list THE FIRST THREE (3) things you find yourself looking for when you're browsing online dating profiles. Try and prioritize the things you look at. Feel free to respond to what others admit, but try to keep any judgments out of the discussion so people will feel free to continue to be open and honest. I'll begin: 1. Picture 2. Children 3. Religion
BettyBoop Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 1. Photo 2. If he wants to "date around" or looking for a "long-term-relationship" 3. The text where he describes himself (it says A LOT!)
BettyBoop Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I'd like to add that if I received an email from a guy I didn't even bother with his profile if it was one of those "standard" emails you realise immediately he sends to every single woman on the site...
Lizzie60 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I'd say I looked for: 1) photo - this is when I decide if I need to look at no. 2. 2) profession (unemployment = no interest on my part) 3) height (my personal preference)
jennyc33 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 1) Photos (and please don't post any half naked pics guys!) 2) height 3) the whole profile. some guys come off extremely vain and it's a turn off. others just seem weird. I also second what someone else says - it's an automatic delete when you get a standard email that you send to every other girl. It usually starts along the lines of OMG you are so beautiful! We have so much in common... LOL!
Barky Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I look for: 1) photo 2) height (either below 5'6 or over 5'10) 3) religion (must be non-catholic and preferably non-religious)
Wallace1 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 1. Photo 2. Kids 3. Personal Info Do you women find it tacky for a guy to have a beach picture with no shirt on? I've got like 15 pics up, and its also with someone else.
stepka Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 1. Photo 2. Kids 3. Personal Info Do you women find it tacky for a guy to have a beach picture with no shirt on? I've got like 15 pics up, and its also with someone else. It depends. If it looks like you're dressed appropriately and not just trying to show off your muscles it's fine. Since it's appropriate for a man to go topless on the beach--sure. If you had a shirt on in that pic I'd wonder.
datingsucks Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 No Drugs Not religious Distance I don't see how people get picky over height to be honest - I mean 4 ft 9 or 6 ft9 I can understand...but, never looked at that really.
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 I gotta agree there should be no negativity at all in the profile. No "Don't message me if..." or "NOT looking for..." or "Please no..." or whatever. It's tempting to put these things but don't do it. And if there's a laundry list of stuff that the chick wants, I move on. And if it talks about sex I usually skip it, NOT because I don't want the girl to be easy but I've found that the more a girl talks about sex in her profile the less she is actually willing to do it.
Author bayouboi Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Very interesting responses so far. Let's keep them coming!
Bejita463 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 1: Pictures. Attraction is important. 2: Children. I'm not ready to share my toys right now. 3: Their spelling. i dont want 2 talk 2 u if u think talking like this is k. I dislike the "I'm not looking to hook up" or "No one night stands guys" style statements. Guys who are looking for that kind of thing are not reading your profile, they are sending you cut and paste messages. The guys who ARE reading your profile want to know about what you do want, not what you don't.
shadowplay Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 (edited) Never done online dating, but when I was idly browsing through OKCupid once, I noticed what did and didn't pique my interest. 1. Picture -- Are they attractive? Do they look intelligent and likeable in their photos? Do they look overly vain? Do they look like they spend a lot of time getting drunk? Do they take retarded photos of themselves getting smashed at parties or not wearing a shirt because they think this will impress the ladies? Everything goes into this assessment -- clothing, hair style, expressions, how they carry themselves, what types of photos they put up, people they hang out with. 2. Intelligence based on what they wrote in their profile. 3. Personality based on what they wrote. Do they seem like a dick? Do they seem weird? Do they have bad taste? Would I find them annoying? Do we have common interests? Everything else is of lesser importance. Surprisingly the vast majority of guys failed #2 and #3. Edited March 15, 2010 by shadowplay
Twenty-ten Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 1. Photo 2. Marital Status/children 3. Profession
Kristine Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 1) Photo have to have some level of attraction. 2) Level of Education 3) Introduction, or description of themselves.
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