BobSacamento Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 As man, when looking for a woman I of course sometimes suffer from the curse of only looking for the qualities desired by the superficial man. I know, women are different. - 99% of women are spelling and grammar nazis, accept it - Don't beat yourself up, leave it to the professionals - Don't have lists Anyway that's what I can recall, but is there anything you also look for. I tend to find too many "I" statements to be unappealing.
Taramere Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Although I've never done online dating, a friend of mine is on match.com, and sometimes we've sat down together going through different men's profiles. It's fun. Well....until we look at the ones in my age group, that is. Number one priority: The picture. I think they all have pictures on match.com. It's not about someone being super duper looking. It's about him looking healthy, friendly, in reasonably good shape - and not having that "I will massacre you and your loved ones if the date is a failure" look about him. Also, if a guy has pictures of him involved in some sporting activity...big plus. A picture of him with kids (his own, if he's separated, or nieces and nephews) gives the warm fuzzies. A picture of him with a dog - ditto. As long as it's not a picture of him sporting a skinhead, a load of tattoos and nuzzling into the neck of a pitbull...though I suppose there will be a female market for that kind of guy as much as any other. As far as what he's got to say for himself goes....I must admit that when I'm looking at these dating profiles, the pictures are the most interesting part and I skim through the other stuff. However, I suppose if I were looking seriously I'd pay more attention. I would say it's probably a good idea to avoid trying too hard for the "I'm different from the other guys" angle. I've had a few whackos send me friend requests on facebook, armed with that "hey baby, I'm that bad boy your mother always warned you about" approach. It's disconcerting, creepy and makes them come across like clueless gimps who are going through the friends lists of friends of friends of friends, and spamming all the women. Someone who comes across as a sane, normal and reasonable kind of guy is probably going to be far more appealing to most women than Mr Whacky whose profile was put together by a friend who works in the media. It may seem boring, but if you put in a nice picture and create a friendly sounding spiel about yourself then I think it's far more likely that women will make an approach.
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