sweetjasmine Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 The first honest response from a female in this thread? Did you notice how she specified "if I were out to pick up or be picked up"? And how she said she's a little insecure? And how she has friends who wouldn't care? Jeez, do you guys really think all women are this vain and self-centered that they're personally slighted every time a random cute guy doesn't hit on her? Don't bother, I already know the answer to that question.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 If I were single, my thought process would be "Hot guy!" and that would be the end of that thought and I'd go back to thinking about whatever I was thinking about before. In a relationship, my thought process would be "Hot guy!" and that would be the end of that thought and I'd go back to thinking about whatever I was thinking about before. I admit I have missed the re-write of the original question, but I personally wouldn't care one way or the other if said hot guy talked to me. I don't do the "pick up by a stranger" gig, so I'd probably be relieved not to have to reject him. Rejecting gets old too ya know.
calizaggy Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 So apparently few women want male attention (even if at a bar by themselves), and they do their hair, make up, and try to look their best just for themselves as well..
Silver_star Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Ill admit that when I became newly single and finally was ready to go out with friends and look at guys in "that way" again...I dressed up and I did it for two reasons the most important being that if I feel good about how I look i am more confident and more approachable to guys, or able to feel like i can approach guys because i can be shy at times. Two..I know that if im dressed up i will get more attention from guys, and feeling desired feels great, not going to lie. However, if i dont get the attention Im not going to sulk about it all night. I know girls like that though. If a guys sits next to me and doesnt talk to me im either going to talk to him, or finish my drink and leave, no big deal...on to the next guy (i dont go to bars alone though so id likely be with friends anyways)
OceanTropic Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 That's not rejection at all, he just wasn't interested. However, if the woman approached him, says hi or smiles at him, and he doesn't do anything, then yes, thats a rejection to her invitation.
stillafool Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Actually I don't see anyone dating 7-11 cashiers.. Who do they date? I have no idea. But if she was hot enough, a Dr certainly would. Education is not synonymous with intelligence. (Men do not make this connection) I know all the career girls think they DESERVE handsome career men, but very often they pass over career women for someone they find more attractive and interesting. I agree. Well when I was a 20 yr. old secretary I fell in love with a Harvard lawyer who pursued me like crazy, dated me for 3 years, then when he was ready to marry he dropped me and married another ivy leaguer. He told me he loved me more but couldn't marry me because I didn't have a degree. I felt like crap. He still tried to date me while engaged and long after they married. Thank God I didn't lower myself to have an affair with him even though I was still in love. He is still asking about me thru a mutual friend after over two decades. Of course I was deeply hurt for a long time, but that hurt pushed me forward to finish my degree. I am so happy that I didn't end up with him because I understand he has had affair after affair on her and she's still with him. So, you see I know first hand that most men with a college degree want the same for their wife.
stillafool Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 So apparently few women want male attention (even if at a bar by themselves), and they do their hair, make up, and try to look their best just for themselves as well.. If I were going to a club (bar) and out on a Saturday night with friends or whatever, and no guy asked me to dance then of course I would feel rejected. No one wants to be a wall flower. In a club bar I wouldn't be upset if the most goodlooking guy in the place didn't hit on me. There are also more goodlooking women and he would have more options. I wouldn't even expect it. But say you are in the airport bar having a drink before your flight and a goodlooking guy is sitting there and he's minding his own business and not giving me attention, I would be fine with it and expect as much.
stillafool Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 So apparently few women want male attention (even if at a bar by themselves), and they do their hair, make up, and try to look their best just for themselves as well.. Some women won't go out of the house without makeup. It's just part of who they are.
loot310 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 The answer to the original post is YES. Many insecure women get offended if you're single, str8, they're interested in you and you don't try talking to them. You might even get your manhood called out.
donnamaybe Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Actually, many times we are RELIEVED when you don't hit on us.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Actually, many times we are RELIEVED when you don't hit on us. I know!! Ha!
PJKino Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Chances are every women in that bar is only attracted to maybe one or two guys in there anyone else who would approach them would be wasting there time and annoying them
loot310 Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 doesn't even make sense unless he is talking about an egotistical, narcissis of a woman; it just doesn't happen. This is what its all about. Women that are secure in themselves aren't bothered by this as much. It's the egotistical and insecure women in need of validation and attention that get bothered if they like you and you dont approach.
stillafool Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 The answer to the original post is YES. Many insecure women get offended if you're single, str8, they're interested in you and you don't try talking to them. You might even get your manhood called out. This is the key. They have to be interested in your first, which means they have given you the signal and he doesn't respond. Yes then she would feel rejected. Wouldn't anyone?
stillafool Posted March 17, 2010 Posted March 17, 2010 Actually, many times we are RELIEVED when you don't hit on us. This is what men don't understand. Goodlooking get hit on all the time so if one goodlooking guy passes you up, it is a relief because afterall, there are only 7 days in a week.
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