yan1f Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I had been with my ex for a little over a year, One week ago, my ex broke up with me..Iam graduating soon, in about 2 months! He will be doing his masters for another 2 years...4 hours away from me when i go back home to find work...things weren't going that well before he ended it we barely saw each other, maybe once to twice a week for lunch because of his busy schedule. and sometimes on the weekends. I felt neglected sometimes...but i think we both tried our best...i was being very indecisive of the realtionship and then he fianlly told me that it's probably for the best to end it...he said he is 90% sure he wants to work in a different country, which is where he is from.....I've been pretty upset since, i really saw us together in the future...i don't know what to do...I haven't had any contact with him for a week and it seems like a long time already....i only have a little less then 2 months left to resolve things and don't know if NC is the best way...hes said he can't do long distance because he thinks hes not strong enough...he said when we broke up that he needs to grow and needs some time to think, but that he cares about me alot....I really don't know what to do and wish things could just be good and have him in my arms again...
LovelyDaze Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 I had been with my ex for a little over a year, One week ago, my ex broke up with me..Iam graduating soon, in about 2 months! He will be doing his masters for another 2 years...4 hours away from me when i go back home to find work...things weren't going that well before he ended it we barely saw each other, maybe once to twice a week for lunch because of his busy schedule. and sometimes on the weekends. I felt neglected sometimes...but i think we both tried our best...i was being very indecisive of the realtionship and then he fianlly told me that it's probably for the best to end it...he said he is 90% sure he wants to work in a different country, which is where he is from.....I've been pretty upset since, i really saw us together in the future...i don't know what to do...I haven't had any contact with him for a week and it seems like a long time already....i only have a little less then 2 months left to resolve things and don't know if NC is the best way...hes said he can't do long distance because he thinks hes not strong enough...he said when we broke up that he needs to grow and needs some time to think, but that he cares about me alot....I really don't know what to do and wish things could just be good and have him in my arms again... You need to do NC if he is going to tell you that an LDR is not going to work with him PLUS that he said he needs time to grow and think. Give him the space he requests and let him come to you...if he does choose to come back. To still stay in his life right now when he is asking for space will only cause an even greater heartbreak. He will be a little harsher each time you don't stay away. Trust me, experience has taught me well about that.
ingridh Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 You need to do NC if he is going to tell you that an LDR is not going to work with him PLUS that he said he needs time to grow and think. Agreed. You have to also give him credit for being honest. LDR especially in a different country is very hard. It is better this way. Keep NC and move on. You will meet someone else in no time.
Author yan1f Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 Yup, i was a day too late in reading the posts. i called him to get closure, because it was really hard for me to move on... this wasn't the best idea, although he was fine, but i was a little disapointed when he said he is alot happier not having to worry about whether he is spending enough time with me or not..now he can catch up on his life go to the gym etc...(i never stopped him from doing this in the relationship) but he felt guilty that he wasn't hanging out with me when we were in a realionship, and now he feels like he can catch up with himself and hes alot happier........i really wish it wouldn't be permanant, but logically it woulnd't be right to wait around for him... people are right though...they definately need NC and iam sticking to this!!
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