sweetjasmine Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I dont get why women are like khis.. Please, feel free to keep ignoring all the female posters in the thread who have said they don't talk about private things with their friends. God forbid you learn something that doesn't reinforce the stereotypes you've already got in your mind.
mrt336 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Because it's harmless, women ruminate more than men and like another poster said- it's just one of the things that are thoroughly discussed. Plus, men are known and encouraged to kiss and tell... how is this any different? When men "kiss and tell" it goes something like this: Guy 1: Bang her yet? Guy 2: Yep! Guy 1: Awesome. Seriously, guys don't spill details about their girls. Atleast not mature guys. None of my friends know anything intimate about my girlfriends. They don't ask because that's rude and disrespectful and I don't share because it'd be disrespectful to my girlfriend. Assume you're in a relationship and your boyfriend introduces you to his friend and you have to wonder if his friend is smiling because he's happy to meet you or smiling because he knows the status of your pubic hair? It's harmless right?
Author Barky Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 So to the women who do discuss it, would you be upset at all if your man came home from tennis or whatever and told you that he and his friends discussed the size and shape of, say, your anus? Would it bother you that you he and his friends were discussing your anus?
marsle85 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 When men "kiss and tell" it goes something like this: Guy 1: Bang her yet? Guy 2: Yep! Guy 1: Awesome. Seriously, guys don't spill details about their girls. Atleast not mature guys. None of my friends know anything intimate about my girlfriends. They don't ask because that's rude and disrespectful and I don't share because it'd be disrespectful to my girlfriend. Assume you're in a relationship and your boyfriend introduces you to his friend and you have to wonder if his friend is smiling because he's happy to meet you or smiling because he knows the status of your pubic hair? It's harmless right? Yeah, that's my bad. It's not necessarily harmless, but it's not always harmful either. It depends on the man, woman, relationship and comfort between the friends sharing. I think it's kind of a stretch to say "Guys don't spill details about their girls." Com'on. You know as well I do that there are just as many men (or likely more) that expose more personal details about their women than vise-versa. It's not "right," it's not "fun" for the partner-- but it's friendship. Whether it's right or not- the bond of friendship provides a lot of insight, comfort and benefits across the board. There are a lot of things you confide in your friends that you wouldn't confide in others. I don't like thinking that my bf's friend is smiling at me because of my pubic hair (or lack of) but I would never expect my bf to not be able to indulge in sharing of his life. And unfortunately, my body is strongly part of his life. As long as it's not overboard and in good nature- i'm not that upset about it. Trust is a huge issue here. I trust my bf has the best intentions for me. Plus- the things I share with my friends are (honest) me gushing about whatever good thing he did (romantic, sexual, whatever) - I'm happy. I want to share. my. happiness. Or, if he does something shady. I want the opinions of the people who love me the most- I want to share. my. unhappiness. In the EFFORT of being happy. It's beneficial and profitable for interpersonal relationships.
CarrieT Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 So to the women who do discuss it, would you be upset at all if your man came home from tennis or whatever and told you that he and his friends discussed the size and shape of, say, your anus? Would it bother you that you he and his friends were discussing your anus? By-and-large, anuses are mostly the same size and shape so I would have no problem with that. And most guys discuss the size and shape of my breasts so I have become accustomed to it...
mrt336 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Yeah, that's my bad. It's not necessarily harmless, but it's not always harmful either. It depends on the man, woman, relationship and comfort between the friends sharing. I think it's kind of a stretch to say "Guys don't spill details about their girls." Com'on. You know as well I do that there are just as many men (or likely more) that expose more personal details about their women than vise-versa. It's not "right," it's not "fun" for the partner-- but it's friendship. Whether it's right or not- the bond of friendship provides a lot of insight, comfort and benefits across the board. There are a lot of things you confide in your friends that you wouldn't confide in others. I don't like thinking that my bf's friend is smiling at me because of my pubic hair (or lack of) but I would never expect my bf to not be able to indulge in sharing of his life. And unfortunately, my body is strongly part of his life. As long as it's not overboard and in good nature- i'm not that upset about it. Trust is a huge issue here. I trust my bf has the best intentions for me. Plus- the things I share with my friends are (honest) me gushing about whatever good thing he did (romantic, sexual, whatever) - I'm happy. I want to share. my. happiness. Or, if he does something shady. I want the opinions of the people who love me the most- I want to share. my. unhappiness. In the EFFORT of being happy. It's beneficial and profitable for interpersonal relationships. No, I'm really not exaggerating at all. I can't tell you one intimate thing about any of my friends girlfriends that I can't see for myself (breast size, for example) or didn't know from an outside source. I'm sure you can imagine a group of girls sitting around with cosmos very sex and the city like and one of them asking another "So how 'big' is your new boyfriend?" Guys don't do that, I promise. If a group of my friends were hanging out and one guy asked another something that personal, like "hey bud, how wet does your girl get?" that would pretty much be a fight haha. I mean maybe I just hang out with the utmost gentlemen on the planet, but I kinda doubt that. I agree it's not a big issue, and as guys we know girls are gonna talk about that stuff because that's the way its always been. I'm just saying, I'd be justifiably pissed off if I found out from someone that my girlfriend was upset that I'm circumsized or something. (I know that's a silly example, but I couldn't think of anything!) It's the telephone game scenario that bothers me about it. You might confide in your girlfriends something serious, then one of them tells it to a friend just in conversation and then that friend realizes they know your boyfriends brother and then all of a sudden your bf's brother is killing him with jokes about his o-face haha. All I'm saying is we know you're gonna do it, but when it comes down to it, it's disrespectful.
CarrieT Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 I think I figured it out... Guys don't talk about their girlfriends because it could/would reflect on themselves; "yeah, I got my girl so wet she came three times last night" could be countered with another guy saying, "Only three? I can get my girl to cum eight times in an hour..." There is too much of a chance that guys comparing notes would potentially show amongst each other that they are not performing as well as their buddies are, or that the girl they can get is not as tight, as young, or as hot as someone else can get. Think about all of those nature programs with the male animals fighting each other for the females; sociologically, they are not about to show any potential weakness to each other and that includes any discussion of sex because it could depict them as weaker than their counterparts. We girls don't have the same sociological and historical inbreeding for such things so within our natures, it doesn't matter if one girl is getting more/better/bigger than OUR counterparts.
mrt336 Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Whoa it just real psychological real quick. You might be on to something. It could also be that there's basically an unwritten rule or general understanding that MY girlfriend and sex are not two things other guys, especially my friends, should be thinking about at the same time. It's not that it doesn't happen, I'm sure it does, but it should never ever be vocalized haha.
mrkleen Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 For guys, it comes down to how you feel about the woman. If she is just a hook up - you would be more likely to tell you buddies some of the details. If you actually LIKE HER - then you are very vague, as in the example above of if you got lucky or not...end of discussion.
donnamaybe Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I think I can discern some posters' - ahem - size just from the posts in this thread. A guy actually asked me once what was so great about my BF. I listed off several of his good qualities and ended with, "...plus, he has a big cock." lol I just wanted to shut him the hell up.
carhill Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Question is: WHY do women care to share the size of their guy's dong? 1. Female emotional bonding 2. Competitiveness 3. Status (see number 2) 4. Boredom (talking about sex relieves boredom) From the number of married female friends (of stbx's) who showed 'interest' in me, I can surmise she talked enough. She recently told me she had a "discussion" with her friend and the topic turned to the shlong size of me and the dude that her friend was dating. Apparently they both said their men had large wangs. If GF isn't a LTR prospect, next time you're all together, pull dude aside and 'man, heard from my GF that you're like out there hung. That's awesome. Me too. Maybe we can do a foursome sometime' Guaranteed to make your day more interesting
Crazy Magnet Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 My BF definitely has a nice one. After a string of not so nice ones, I admit, after discovering said genitalia, I rolled over the next morning after he left and texted my best girlfriend something along the lines of "thank god he's got a big one!" I also admitted to him later that I sent that text and we laughed about it. We still laugh about it. Other than that, his size hasn't come up until I went out with the BF and several of his friends. One girl got drunk, and started telling me that although she never went there, this other mutual friend had told her that word has gotten around the group that he's got a big one. Talk about an awkward moment! Earlier in life I ask b/c I didn't really know what was normal. Now I've seen enough that I don't feel the need to ask anymore, but I will still discuss it with my closest friends in certain contexts.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Many women don't know what constitutes big either, I had one girl tell someone I was 10 inches. That made me laugh. Many just don't know. If I saw a real 10 incher, I'd run screaming!
torranceshipman Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 I have no idea why this bothers you. It's such a blah thing to discuss. And they probably only discussed it to say they either a) like it, or b) sometimes feels uncomfortable as it is too big, so are swapping notes. Believe me, it can be too big. Although that is nowhere near the problem of it being too small! Or she thinks it's what you want to hear (i.e. saying you have a big schlong) and that it'll make you happy to say that to you, so she says it...
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I agree it's tacky and low-class to discuss other people's private parts.
Silver_star Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I put this in dating rather than sex because it's not actually about sex. One of the chicks I'm dating is about 9 years older than I. She recently told me she had a "discussion" with her friend and the topic turned to the shlong size of me and the dude that her friend was dating. Apparently they both said their men had large wangs. This is nothing new to me, other girlfriends of mine have had this same discussion with their pals. But AFAIK it was when they were younger, like teens and early 20s. I didn't know 40-somethings still discussed this stuff. Question is: WHY do women care to share the size of their guy's dong? I mean, I understand that women are very open with each other about their sexuality, but wang size? It's not like guys talk about whether their girl has large labia or whatever. Discussing genitalia? OMG why? Is it some status thing? "Well his taste in clothing is terrible but he's got a big wonger!" or "Not only did he get that promotion at work but his flesh tube is as big as my arm!" Enlighten me plz. Probably the same reason that some guys parade their women around like trophys...for status, and to make other guys jealous and envious. Or the same reason guys get together and talk about womens breast size. Havent you ever seen MANSWERS on spike tv.? lol
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