glamgurl Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 OK this situation is weird I think, what do you guys think? Well I had posted before under the title of “lost friendship?” Since then….I waited a week or so and sent another message and asked if she was interested in catching up sometime soon and she responded with a Yes, and we decided on the next Saturday at a local restaurant around brunch time. That was a Monday and we didn’t talk the rest of the week but that Friday I texted her to see how she was and she didn’t respond so I later I asked her if we were still on for Saturday. She responds with “should be I may get called into work though”. So I ask when she will know and she says soon? So I tell her ok and leave it at that. Didn’t hear from her until 10 Saturday morning saying sorry she was at work and asked about doing something Sunday. I tell her that I have to check my schedule at work and I’d get back to her later in the evening (was kinda mad she let me know so late). So I text her on my break and tell her that I can meet Sunday afternoon and asked if that was still good for her and she then responds with “what time?” I respond with a time but then I don’t hear from her the rest of the night so like four hours later I send a text with a “?” then at 11ish she says she’s not sure she might be moving her horses. So I send a text saying maybe we should try it another time and that if she wants to get together she can let me know and I ask if she still wants to meet up? No response until today at 3, she asks what am I doing tonight? I answer and ask her a question, no answer 2 some hours later. Like I know some people don’t respond right away and that’s fine but why talk with me and ask questions but leave me hanging then? Should I call, should I just forget about it? I’m just wondering what the hell is going on????? Any insights would be appreciated. Thanks!
blueyedgrl85 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 If appropriate, give your friend the benefit of the doubt. She may have personal or family emergencies going on that she hasn't told you about. That, or she is simply totally oblivious to considerate behavior when it comes to arranging and respecting times. Depending on how close you two are, you can either talk to her about how you feel (use "I" statements like "I feel hurt when you cancel plans at the last minute" so it doesn't seem like you're accusing her.) Otherwise just stop trying to make plans and move on to other friends who are more dependable.
bubbles5 Posted March 22, 2010 Posted March 22, 2010 Forget about it n if ur frnd comes , Your frnd has surely ego problem. And may be she is having some problem with u n she is hiding frm u so she might b reactin in this way. Leave her alone for a while n 4get abt whole meeting up with her. Stop payin too much attention .Hangout with pals who would like to b with u just casual meet up.
RedCherries Posted March 30, 2010 Posted March 30, 2010 I'd say it's either two things - she doesn't realize she's being flaky and she is really busy, or she doesn't really care about your friendship. I agree with the first person who responded, talk to them and explain what she's doing and how you're feeling. She may not know how she's been treating you.
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