Woggle Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I work with a woman that is gay and we get along really well. She is pretty much like one of the guys and we work together on a lot of projects. I keep telling her about this great italian place so we decided to go there on our lunch break and she told me that I am the only man she would ever go straight for. I know she is not one of those women who decided to go gay because she hates men or is just experimenting because she has been working her longer than me and she has always been gay. The thing I want to know is is she flirting with me or was it just joking around? Should I read anything more into this. I would never do anything with her but it would ackward working together if this element were brought into it.
ADF Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 She's probably just being sweet and letting you know she likes you as a person. But who knows. I once dated a lesbian-identified women (long story). It is not impossible that your lesbian friend might have a heterosexual relapse once in a blue moon. But unless she gets much more obvious about it, I'd just accept it as a gesture of affection, nothing more.
New Again Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Sounds like flirting to me, but wouldn't automatically assume anything beyond that.
Barky Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Ellen Degeneres was sitting on Simon Cowell's lap nuzzling him on a recent episode of American Idol. She's not in the slightest bit straight. She was just having fun.
norajane Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 She was not hitting on you, so you don't need to get all a-flutter. She was paying you a compliment that she thinks you're a great guy. She phrased it in such a way as to show you how highly she thinks of you - she used hyperbole. But, that's it. She's not actually interested in you as a lover.
allina Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I think you're taking her comment too seriously. It was just a friendly/joking way to tell you that she liked you and thought you were a cool guy.
sally4sara Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 She is trying to build a rapport with you and complimented you in a way you can recognize as a hetero male.
Barky Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 she told me that I am the only man she would ever go straight for. There are really only two ways to respond to this: 1) You say, "Well that's very sweet of you," and then drop it. If she winks and says, "No, seriously, I want to go straight with you," then you're in. OR 2) You jokingly say, "Well I think there's a broom closet in the back..." and then watch for her reaction.
tami-chan Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I think she was testing you since you have this unwavering conviction to not cheat....apparently, it only takes a comment to get you unnerved and "bothered"! Here you are posting on LS about it!
ADF Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 She was not hitting on you, so you don't need to get all a-flutter. She was paying you a compliment that she thinks you're a great guy. She phrased it in such a way as to show you how highly she thinks of you - she used hyperbole. But, that's it. She's not actually interested in you as a lover. I am 99% sure you're right about this. But you know why it's confusing? because there is no straight-guy equivelant to this kind of behavior. Most men--especially younger men--almost never go out of their way to befriend a woman they aren't attracted to. Almost never. I remember before Rosie O'Donnell came out, she would regularly fawn over Tom Cruise. When she was questioned about it later, she said something like, "Look, I said I wanted him to hand feed me grapes. I didn't say I wanted to F___ him." We straight guys have absolutely no frame of reference for that kind of thing.
craw Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 It's was just an one time huge compliment. smile, move on.
Pyro Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Its not flirting unless you degrade her and treat her like garbage. You said so yourself that is the only way for women to be interested.
Author Woggle Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 I have known her since my ex and I were together and in some ways she was there as a friend through the divorce and I have never hear a comment like this from her until now. I am just wondering what it is about. She would not be the type to be addicted to drama if she were straight. In fact she claims that all the women she dates are nothing but drama. Even most lesbians don't like being content.
quankanne Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 She was not hitting on you, so you don't need to get all a-flutter. She was paying you a compliment that she thinks you're a great guy. She phrased it in such a way as to show you how highly she thinks of you - she used hyperbole. But, that's it. She's not actually interested in you as a lover. this is my guess, too. There's something about you that she admires/respects, which, when you think about it, it's a huge compliment.
whichwayisup Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 She was not hitting on you, so you don't need to get all a-flutter. She was paying you a compliment that she thinks you're a great guy. She phrased it in such a way as to show you how highly she thinks of you - she used hyperbole. But, that's it. She's not actually interested in you as a lover. this is my guess, too. There's something about you that she admires/respects, which, when you think about it, it's a huge compliment. My thoughts exactly. It's a nice compliment and definately not to be taken out of context or the wrong way.
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