singlelife Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 when out at the bars i see women really into men who are making them laugh with corny jokes. is this a turn on for them or is it they already like the dude?
Ross PK Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I have heard a lot that women find men who have a sense of humour, or men that can actually make them laugh a turn on.
CarrieT Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 As with everything else, I believe it is different for every woman. I am an anomaly that I don't care for comedy clubs and trite joke-making as it seems contrived and far from sincere. I hated the online profiles where every guy says they have a sense of humor and expect it from their women. My question becomes, "what kind of sense of humor?" The humor that I like tends towards British comedies and Black comedies which do not translate well into one-on-one banter or "bar speak." The whole corny joke thing reeks of childishness and adolescence, not something I want in a MAN.
ADF Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 For men, the ability to make women laugh is critical. Let's face it: most of us men are amazingly unattractive. What women ever see in any of us is not just a mystery to us men, it is a mystery to most women as well. If a man cannot be funny, witty, charming, etc he has no chance with women. None. Women, on the other hand, can choose to be funny or not. Men are attratced to women regardless.
tigressA Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Yes, like CarrieT said, it depends on the woman. I love a guy whose humor is sarcastic and clever, mixed with a bit of naughty double entendres. And of course, it's even better if he can take a few ribbings himself.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 My sense of humor is pretty out there, however, I spend most of my life laughing, even when things suck donkey balls. The men I am into share my sense of humor. I like puns and things of that nature. The humor I don't like is when a guy starts quoting movies or TV shows. Lame. Get your own sense of humor and stop trying to steal someone else's line. Out of context I never personally find it funny.
GuybrushThreepwood Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Humor can get an ugly dude laid, and it's one of those traits that never goes away. Many years in the future, when a guy has a beer gut and is possibly balding, and is too old to be an ultimate fighter or ride a motorcycle or whatever, if he has a kick ass sense of humor he will still be attractive because he makes mundane things fun. Humor is also a good indication of intelligence. If a guy is really quick witted, you can bet he's intellectually very sharp. If you are talking about corny jokes, puns, pick up lines, etc, most women will only pretend to laugh at those, and only then if the dude is really attractive (or financially loaded, depending on the girl). It works both ways; funny girls are often unattractive because, like funny guys, they kind of have to be. Beautiful women, like handsome men, often THINK they are funnier than they are because people have been laughing at their lame ass jokes their entire lives because they are good looking and people want to hook up with them.
mem11363 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 There is a HIGH correlation between how "funny" a woman finds you and her sexual attraction to you. The rare exception happens when a guy is really short/or ugly and also truly funny. He may get a lot of genuine laughter because he IS really funny - but not so much sex. I also believe that women will laugh at stupid stuff from a hot guy just because they WANT him to feel they are into him. Just like guys sometimes ignore a dreadfully boring personality on a hot woman because she is hot. For me - the correlation held up well. The women who really found me funny almost always - like 90 percent - also were attracted to me, would have sex with me. when out at the bars i see women really into men who are making them laugh with corny jokes. is this a turn on for them or is it they already like the dude?
zebracolors Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I have heard a lot that women find men who have a sense of humour, or men that can actually make them laugh a turn on. Definitely Ross. I would certainly be one of those women, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker if he was not silly alot. I can be silly enough for the both of us. Besides, giggles and laughing can easily turn into other "sounds".
mem11363 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I gradually learned my wife's sense of humor. And we are both good at light banter with each other. I would never do corny jokes or puns - that stuff is a huge turnOFF to the average woman. Also when we socialize and I tell a marital anecdote to the group and they laugh - not a polite laugh a real that was funny laugh - that definitely has a nice effect on her. If you are compatible to start you can get really good at entertaining your partner. I think of it as conversational sex. Laughing is a kissing cousin to a sexual orgasm.... There is a HIGH correlation between how "funny" a woman finds you and her sexual attraction to you. The rare exception happens when a guy is really short/or ugly and also truly funny. He may get a lot of genuine laughter because he IS really funny - but not so much sex. I also believe that women will laugh at stupid stuff from a hot guy just because they WANT him to feel they are into him. Just like guys sometimes ignore a dreadfully boring personality on a hot woman because she is hot. For me - the correlation held up well. The women who really found me funny almost always - like 90 percent - also were attracted to me, would have sex with me.
spookie Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 its a nice bonus, but not a requirement, for me. that said, i only became attracted to the guy im currently seeing when i realized he was the funniest person id ever met.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 A good sense of humour is one of the traits I find sexiest in a man. Also note, that there's a difference between telling corny jokes and having a good sense of humour. I would take an average looking guy who's funny over an attractive guy who isn't, any day of the week!
Lizzie60 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 For me.. sense of humour is no. 1 on my list.. If the guy is not 'funny' or has no sense of humour.. he's out..
Land Shark Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 its a nice bonus, but not a requirement, for me. that said, i only became attracted to the guy im currently seeing when i realized he was the funniest person id ever met. I've often had the impression that you don't find anything funny.
craw Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 The whole corny joke thing reeks of childishness and adolescence, not something I want in a MAN. exactly! for me, sense of humour is extremely important. he doesn't necessarily have to be funny, but has to laugh at the same things I do. I have strange sense of humour. lol
Disillusioned Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 My sense of humor is pretty out there, however, I spend most of my life laughing, even when things suck donkey balls. The men I am into share my sense of humor. I like puns and things of that nature. The humor I don't like is when a guy starts quoting movies or TV shows. Lame. Get your own sense of humor and stop trying to steal someone else's line. Out of context I never personally find it funny. My sense of humor is pretty sardonic and is too over-the-top for most people, not just women. I get a big kick out of people who pay a price when they do stupid things... and I poke fun at human foibles, especially the whole sex-necessity thing. NOT funny to people who are the butt of my jokes.
BobSacamento Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 It's sometimes difficult to be funny while trying to pick up a woman. I enjoy self depricating humor personally. Not really selling yourself in that respect.
sunshinegirl Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Also when we socialize and I tell a marital anecdote to the group and they laugh - not a polite laugh a real that was funny laugh - that definitely has a nice effect on her. If you are compatible to start you can get really good at entertaining your partner. I think of it as conversational sex. Laughing is a kissing cousin to a sexual orgasm.... Agree! My BF's sense of humor is what ultimately drew me in, and we egg each other on. Making each other laugh is a huge source of bonding for us.
counterman Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 My jokes use to piss my ex-girlfriend off. She would tell me off for telling a joke sometime and then she would say "that's not funny" in a vicious way. In saying that, she said that making her laugh isn't important when it came to use being together. I found that she wasn't really attracted to me but rather what I could be. I thinking making a woman laugh is not necessarily important but it does help. It would just be enjoyable and makes her feel good when she is around you. I say some really lame stuff and some witty some, and there are very few people who have told me that I am funny. Though, with my friends, even my girl friends, it is pretty easy to make them laugh. So, I guess it depends on the person.
freestyle Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I could never stomach dating or being in a relationship with a guy who can't make me laugh, or laugh with me when I'm being silly. I don't expect to be entertained with a stand-up routine all the time----but I love to laugh, have fun, and enjoy life---it's far too short to be rigid all the time.I appreciate every form of humour, from slapstick , to clever plays on words. a thought just occurred to me---it may be the best way to really get to know someone---when you have an authentic belly laugh, you have to let your guard down and really be yourself---there's no faking it.
marsle85 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Depends on the girl. Like me? I grew up with two older brothers and a dad who teased me RELENTLESSLY. Plus, I'm a smart-ass and easy to laugh. I appreciate these things in my SO because humor is important to me.
homersheineken Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Love your sig, Barky. ---Attention men: Do not get dating or marriage advice from women. They will tell you to do things that best benefit them, not you. Talk to men who have been in your situation and have found a way out. No way. Find a girl who is not interested in you and she will give you an honest answer.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Sense of homor is important. However, it depends on what kind of sense of humor you are attracted to. No matter what type of sense of humor you like in the guy, the core reason women want someone who is fun/funny is because he can make her smile. It can take some of the edge off of life.
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