What's he playing at?

[hellopeople]

So I’ve been trying really had to keep NC going with my ex that dumped me (almost on 2 months now yay!). But apparently he thinks otherwise.

 

We run into each other in the library often, but it’s pretty easy for me to avoid him there. I just sit on the opposite side of the room and completely ignore him. He on the other hand, likes to keep tabs on me – move closer to where I’m sitting, position his computer screen so he can see me from the reflection, I even catch him (with the help of my awesome peripheral vision) glancing at me. He’s approached me once and we made small talk.

 

I pretty much pretend he doesn’t exist. I de-friended him and then blocked him on fb. I switched out of the class we signed up for together.

 

I initiate nothing. I was hoping he would get the message that I don’t want anything to do with him, but I guess not:

 

So, yesterday I was at an exam review. There are a lot of these reviews and I have never seen him at one this semester – but he knows I go religiously. I was sitting with some male friends waiting to be let in when I felt something like a notebook hit me playfully on my back. I turned around to see my ex smiling at me. He said hi and I retuned it.

 

So I acknowledged his presence.

 

I then turned around to continue talking to my friends – didn’t turn my back on him, but didn’t talk to him either.

 

Now, what bothered me was that he didn’t leave me alone after that. He stood around my group awkwardly just kind of ease dropping. He would cut into the convo a few times to say stupid things to which everyone would laugh at – but me.

 

Every now and then he would turn to glance at me.

 

Yet I continued to act as if he was just another guy I don’t know there reviewing for the exam – no talking to him, no special treatment.

 

Why doesn’t he get it? That I don’t want anything to do with him? I don’t want to be his friend even though he threw that “I really want to be your friend” line at me. I want to move on but I feel like he doesn’t want me to.

 

I hear he already has some chick he’s chasing so why is he still bothering with me? It’s disrespectful to his new girl. How would she feel if she knew her guy was busy bothering his ex?

 

And I have a feeling he’ll continue to go to the reviews. Should I just continue doing what I’m doing now – returning his “his” and “heys” but other than that, pretty much ignoring him?

Edited March 12, 2010 by hellopeople

[Ronni_W]

Should I just continue doing what I’m doing now – returning his “his” and “heys”

I'd stop doing that for the simple fact it's not working to get you want you want, which is for him to leave you alone. I'd just give him an icy glare that says, "Go away you pathetic wretch! I have no use for you!"

 

Or. Next time you're with a group and he's hanging around like a freak, say something like, "Hey everyone, do you know my ex? I'm guessing he must be feeling real dumb for dumping me cos lately he's everywhere I am. Almost like I have my own private stalker!" and then laff and laff.

 

Either way, with a bit of luck he'll see how pathetic he's become in your eyes, and he'll leave you alone once and for all.

Hugs and good luck!