SomewhatExperienced Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I realize that at the start of dating, it's expected that the guy will always call first (to make plans, etc..). At what point do you women start calling the guy?
Crazy Magnet Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I usually don't call until the "dating" phase is over and the "exclusive" relationship phase begins.
Twenty-ten Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Usually once he starts regularly asking me out then I take the initiative too. Once the pattern is set, after the first month or so it is safe to say we are on a regular pattern. But I've been known to call sooner if he shows a lot of regular interest.
alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 At what point do you women start calling the guy? once they've got him firmly by the balls
Twenty-ten Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 once they've got him firmly by the balls Pahahaha pretty much!
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I almost never do, unless I have a very specific request or invitation. I'm old-fashioned that way.
Barky Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Keep in mind there are a lot of dudes out there, like myself, who expect 50/50 effort in a rel'p. By not calling, ever, in the first stages of the rel'p you will eliminate those guys. Which might be exactly what you want. But just expect that a certain percentage of men will drop by the wayside due to your attempts to achieve control over them
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 A man who really likes me will call, or will let me know he'd like me to call more. If a guy communicated that to me, I'd step up. But none of my boyfriends have minded doing almost all the phone contacting. It's always best for a girl to err on the side of not being clingy or demanding of a guy's time and attention.
Barky Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 This crap needs to go, why can't the woman initiate contact and call? Either: 1) Because they want to make sure you're interested enough to "pursue" them. 2) Because they don't want to bug you. The first is bad, the second is not as bad. Strangely, I've never, in many years of internet dating, met a woman who never initiated contact. Or if I have, I guess I forgot about her and she's still waiting for my call
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I'm tired of being expected to do all the legwork. Boo hoo. Get back to me when you're the one who has to give birth.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 1) Because they want to make sure you're interested enough to "pursue" them. And this is smart for a woman who wants to do more than -- as you put it, bump uglies -- with someone like you, who doesn't seem to have any use for women beyond that. My feelings wouldn't be hurt if someone with that mentality lost my number.
Barky Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 :laugh:The randomness of that comment and how it's not connected at all got me. Women want equality, but refuse it in certain situations. Women should approach men and initiate conversation. They should call first, pay for dates, etc. This isn't the 1950's where women are subservient to men. I know, silly huh? Keep in mind the folks here are mostly social failures. Most women have little problem calling you up. The ones who do will be lonely for most of their lives. No big deal for you either way, right?
Barky Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 My feelings wouldn't be hurt if someone with that mentality lost my number. That's wonderful. The beauty of the dating market is that you can eventually find what you're looking for if you date enough people.
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