Superdude87 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Me and my ex have been officially broken up for 2 months after about 6 months of pure hell. I'll summarize -June 09 she cheated on me with her ex, I dump her -Like a fool, I take her back 3 months later after she begs me to take her back -We mess around behind her exes back, he finds out, dumps her, she stays with me for a month -She gets her own place, gives me the cold shoulder and wants to be friends -I tell her no deal, we can be civil and no hard feelings but I refuse to be buddies with her. Once every few months we can chat and catch up, nothing more So from January through last weekend, I saw her twice. Each time, no big deal seeing her, I really didn't want her at all and all the **** she put me through (much more than what I wrote above) really started to sink in once the feelings subsided. I really lost all respect for her. So about 2 weeks ago we go out to lunch to catch up, no biggie. She suddenly wants to do lunch two days later, I refuse. She wants to get drinks with me and my roommate a week later, and so we did. We got a little drunk, ended up hooking up even though we made it clear it meant nothing and neither of us wanted a relationship. 2 nights later she invites me to a bar with her friend, I end up going (like an idiot). I get there, and of course she's touchy feely, holds my hand, puts my hand around her waist, kisses me on the cheek when she gets up to go to the bathroom, that kind stuff. Later on we're playing pool and she flat out comes up and kisses me on the lips. After that, she's basically on her phone the rest of the night and obviously talking to another guy. Kinda pissed me off, so eventually I decided to head home and was a little cold to her. 2 nights later (last night) she invites me to a concert with two friends. Of course, like an idiot, I go. At first things were cool and fun, of course she's the same way with me (touchy, holding hands, kisses on the neck etc...) and we'd both been drinking so I go along with it. Later on she disappears and I'm hanging out with her friends and she's down talking to some random guy. Kinda irritating, but again we're not together so I have no right to be mad. Still not something I want to look at. So they're talking for a while, and later on I go look for her and she's dancing with this guy. I go back to her friends. Finally, we're all ready to go so I go and find her at the bar hugging all over him. I was so tired of seeing this crap, I went up to her, said my goodbyes and just left. Obviously this pissed her off and she texted me today saying I was childish, and could have just come and talked to her and her new friend instead of just storming out. Yeah, you're my ex-gf and I want to meet the newest guy trying to get into your panties. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? Today we talked, I told her this had to end and she's fine with that. She wants to be able to be my friend, go out and have fun cause she likes to be around me but does NOT want a relationship. I guess I just can't handle being around her and not letting my feelings get in the way. I am so freaking done with chicks right now. Just needed to rant.
Sadbutrelieved Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 You've got to cut her off completely, no contact. She sounds toxic to me. You're better off without her.
Rearden Metal Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Unfortunately, this is how a lot of girls are these days. Cake eaters, really. You're doing the right thing by cutting her off and walking away, unless you also have no feelings for her and are just along for fun.
LovelyDaze Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Definitely stay away from that one. She LOVES attention and wants to be ego brushed. And worse than that..she loves drama.
Author Superdude87 Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 The weird thing is that it's still mindboggling to me that she acts this way because I see an entire different side of her when we're not going out. She's intelligent, motivated, hard-working, extremely out-going...I guess that's what attracted me to her in the first place. It's weird to see someone like that be so careless, heartless, and just so selfish at the same time. Funny thing is all of her friends and family aren't real happy with her for breaking up with me. They all love me and want us together, and she makes sure to tell me this, although it annoys her. Apparently I have my **** together and guys like me aren't a dime a dozen. Her loss.
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