counterman Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Hey all, So, I met this girl the other day and I think we sort of hit it off well. I found her really interesting and there was just something about her that left me wanting to get to know her more. Soon after we first met, I spoke to her again and I don't think she was that interested, so I just left it at that. The next day, I bump into her and I had a great conversation with her and really got to know some personal details about her. I asked her, when she was about to leave, "hey, we should meet up sometime". She stopped and I think she was surprised because she said "really? um, okay, like what?" and I said "how about coffee?" and then she asked "what times are you free? are you busy", etc. One thing I am really wondering is, I've spoken to her on three separate occasions and I asked her if we could "meet up" - would she think that we're going as friends? I mean, I'm pretty sure I've hinted that I was interested a few times and one major hint that any girl would pick up. I asked for her number afterwards and she gave it to me but she showed me her phone and said it was stuffed up. I saw the state of it, and I believed her. Just to try, I sent her a text so she knew that the number was mine and she didn't reply back. Now, should I still try to call her and set up a date or should I wait until Monday to ask her in person (would she think I am hot and cold?... I mean, she said her phone didn't work)? Thanks!
USMCHokie Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Soon after we first met, I spoke to her again and I don't think she was that interested, so I just left it at that. The next day, I bump into her and I had a great conversation with her and really got to know some personal details about her. I asked her, when she was about to leave, "hey, we should meet up sometime". She stopped and I think she was surprised because she said "really? um, okay, like what?" and I said "how about coffee?" and then she asked "what times are you free? are you busy", etc. One thing I am really wondering is, I've spoken to her on three separate occasions and I asked her if we could "meet up" - would she think that we're going as friends? I mean, I'm pretty sure I've hinted that I was interested a few times and one major hint that any girl would pick up. That line was kind of a "mild" fail on your part...not a very assertive asking out...and it can easily be interpreted as a platonic get together...even saying "we should go out sometime" is better than "meeting up"... Or you could tell her that "you'd like to get coffee with her [or take her to dinner, or to the park, or whatever it is]." Go as far as to suggest a time and place...instead of asking when she's free or busy, you're telling her when you're free...it's a much stronger move, and it puts the ball in her court to either say yes to your time or to suggest a better time for her... I asked for her number afterwards and she gave it to me but she showed me her phone and said it was stuffed up. I saw the state of it, and I believed her. Just to try, I sent her a text so she knew that the number was mine and she didn't reply back. Uh...what does it mean for a phone to be "stuffed up"...?
Author counterman Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 That line was kind of a "mild" fail on your part...not a very assertive asking out...and it can easily be interpreted as a platonic get together...even saying "we should go out sometime" is better than "meeting up"... Or you could tell her that "you'd like to get coffee with her [or take her to dinner, or to the park, or whatever it is]." Go as far as to suggest a time and place...instead of asking when she's free or busy, you're telling her when you're free...it's a much stronger move, and it puts the ball in her court to either say yes to your time or to suggest a better time for her... You're right. I really didn't think it through, what I was going to say. Plus, it had been a long time since I asked a girl out on a date. I was thinking, because we both had places to go to, that I would call her to set up and then yeah, it didn't go according to that. Uh...what does it mean for a phone to be "stuffed up"...? It means she can't receive calls or reply and that she only carries it to to check the time. She wasn't wearing a watch. What do you think? Should I try to call her anyways? Or, just another couple of days? Damn, I should have set it right there and then.
USMCHokie Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 You're right. I really didn't think it through, what I was going to say. Plus, it had been a long time since I asked a girl out on a date. I was thinking, because we both had places to go to, that I would call her to set up and then yeah, it didn't go according to that. Eh, it's really no big deal...since you had established a repoire with her already, I doubt it would have made a difference...nowadays, people use all those terms interchangably to infer a date... It means she can't receive calls or reply and that she only carries it to to check the time. She wasn't wearing a watch. What do you think? Should I try to call her anyways? Or, just another couple of days? Damn, I should have set it right there and then. That's weird...I think that's strange enough to be a dealbreaker...someone who carries a phone that doesn't work...? Call when you want...I usually call a few days before the day I want to go out with a girl...
Author counterman Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Eh, it's really no big deal...since you had established a repoire with her already, I doubt it would have made a difference...nowadays, people use all those terms interchangably to infer a date... I sure hope so. I mean, I even flirted with her a bit and teased her and broke the touch barrier. I'm pretty sure she knows I am interested but can never be too sure. That's weird...I think that's strange enough to be a dealbreaker...someone who carries a phone that doesn't work...? Call when you want...I usually call a few days before the day I want to go out with a girl... Yeah...I thought it was strange too. Though, I should really ask her about it to see what the deal is. I think I might give her a call soon then. I know I'll be seeing her for sure in the next week, so if I can't get to her I'll ask her first thing when I see her. Well not first, but you know what I mean;) Also, if the time I suggest doesn't suit her (i.e. she's busy that time), do I ask her to suggest a time or do I suggest another?
USMCHokie Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I think I might give her a call soon then. I know I'll be seeing her for sure in the next week, so if I can't get to her I'll ask her first thing when I see her. Well not first, but you know what I mean;) Also, if the time I suggest doesn't suit her (i.e. she's busy that time), do I ask her to suggest a time or do I suggest another? You should call. Suggest a second possibly time. If she says no, ask her for a time. If she says she'll get back to you, move on.
tami-chan Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Stuffed up phone? so that means she max-ed the texts she can saved. max-ed the texts she can send and max-ed her calling minutes....wow...how old is she? and what does she do for a living? It sounds like she has a pay-as -you-go plan....that also mean she probably did not get your text! Talk to her on Monday.
Author counterman Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 You should call. Suggest a second possibly time. If she says no, ask her for a time. If she says she'll get back to you, move on. This week has been hectic. I met so many new people, most of the girl I wouldn't go out with though. Problem with this girl is I think she knows that I am eager to get to know her. I would call her normally, but seeing that she didn't reply to my text after she gave me her number. I don't know. Maybe I should wait until Monday morning to talk to her? I hope that's not too much of me already, is it?
Author counterman Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Stuffed up phone? so that means she max-ed the texts she can saved. max-ed the texts she can send and max-ed her calling minutes....wow...how old is she? and what does she do for a living? It sounds like she has a pay-as -you-go plan....that also mean she probably did not get your text! Talk to her on Monday. LOL. I saw her phone and it did look stuffed up - there was a few strands of tape holding the battery to the phone. Ah boy, I should have set up a date right then and there... All good, I'll talk to her on Monday:)
tami-chan Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Tape holding the battery? ahmmm....really? LOL..poor thing...
Author counterman Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Alright, didn't get to talk to her today. She came to class later than I and weird thing was when she was walking into the room, she had her mobile out and it looked as though she was either checking the time or texting. I'm not going to look too much into it. Anyways, I am planning on setting a date tomorrow, no matter what. Should I just talk to her first and gauge her interested or just head back to where I started from the last time I spoke to her and plan something? I seriously cannot tell if she's interested in me. All I know is that she initially was, but after 4 days of not speaking, I have no idea.
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