Kristine Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Okay my was in a pretty serious relationship with two guys following the death of my dad, not simultaneously but in succession. Neither relationship worked out, rather she didn't end up married to either one of them however both these men still talk to her one via e-mail almost daily the other calls pretty regularly. Why is that? My ex's don't remain in friendly contact with me (minus the one I share a child with), so I think it's really odd. Maybe this is a question for guys, why would you still talk to an ex girlfriend?
Wallace1 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 The only "Ex" I talk to even semi-regularly was from HS about 10 years ago. I'm not sure that really counts because we were like 16 at the time. Aside from situations where you have the same group of friends, the only reason guys would keep in touch would be because they want her back/think they have a shot at getting her back.
Author Kristine Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Thanks. She was in her 50's then and said she wouldn't marry until she was 60, she's now 60 but it's not like they're back together so it just seems odd to me.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 The only time I hear from ex's is when they want to get back together or to test the waters to see if anything is still there on my part. Because of that, I now avoid all ex's like the plague if they make contact. I'll keep them on my facebook friends list, but I don't speak, text, email, or send pigeons to any of them. It's always ended up in renewed professions of love from their end and awkwardness on my end.
The Paper Knight Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 reason 1: to get back together reason 2: casual sex reason 3: she has other friends of interest reason 4: an actual friend of the opposite sex, very useful for inside info I think the only reason its hard is because of the tension left from the relationship. If you can get over that and see them with other people then great, you can be friends - thats only if their new partner agrees!
A_guy Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Yea, I have been in contact with my ex in the past. I can see it happening where one can remain friends with their ex in some capacity and make it work, but it didn't with me! I just find it hard to cut off all contact with someone that I loved. In that respect, I personally have opened up doors of heartache. Who knows? Maybe it will be different for you.
tami-chan Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Okay my was in a pretty serious relationship with two guys following the death of my dad, not simultaneously but in succession. Neither relationship worked out, rather she didn't end up married to either one of them however both these men still talk to her one via e-mail almost daily the other calls pretty regularly. Why is that? My ex's don't remain in friendly contact with me (minus the one I share a child with), so I think it's really odd. Maybe this is a question for guys, why would you still talk to an ex girlfriend? My Exes still talk to me....I don't see why they wouldn't want to-it is not like I hate them or they hate me.....
LovelyDaze Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Lots of reasons...possibly already mentioned in one way or another: * They really want to see if you still have feelings for them & get back with you * They want to keep you strung along to feed you crumbs & boost their ego * To ensure that you love no one else...another ego boost * To make sure that you are a backup plan in case their current dating situation doesn't pan out. * They feel indifferent about you now and can offer being a platonic friend and nothing else. That's where you have to ask yourself if YOU feel indifferent about them. It is never a good idea to be in contact with your ex if you still have deep feelings for them, the breakup is too recent, and/or you would take them back without much resolution on why you broke up in the 1st place. Like the post above me: Sure, I have a few ex-boyfriends that I am still great friends with but ONLY because I don't have ANY desire of getting back with them and am more then happy that some have girlfriends. You just can't mess up your recovery by keeping the person that hurt you around.
phineas Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 IF he broke up with her & she was resistant then there is always a good chance of a booty call. If she broke up with him it's probably because he hasn't moved on. I'm friendly with my STBXW. She cheated. We are divorceing. But, we have 2 small children that need raising. And we have to work to together to make sure our kids turn out ok. We can't do that being bitter towards each other.
boogieboy Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Your friend is stringing those ex's along so she feels better about herself. Awful thing to do really.
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